No birthday gift from my husband

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Registered: 03-08-2011
No birthday gift from my husband
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Tue, 03-08-2011 - 12:34pm

Hello,

I don't

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Registered: 03-08-2011
Fri, 03-18-2011 - 2:39pm
Thank you for the advice cmtasha! I have come to realize to be happy with everything he does and not to read too much into it. He does do thoughtful things for no reason at all but I just couldnt understand the birthday issue. Maybe he feels like he shouldn't be made to do something at a specific time but when he really finds something that has meaning.
Hugs to you too!
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Registered: 04-19-2011
Wed, 04-20-2011 - 12:20am
I love gifts but it seems that the flowers and balloons are a gift. At least to your husband they are. Not to mention the cards. Sounds like he is doing the best he knows to do. since you told him you would like a gift, even a small one, i bet when he went to find you something he really had a hard time. Take him up on his offer of a spa day. I sure would!!!
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Registered: 07-21-2007
Wed, 04-20-2011 - 2:35pm

For my birthday this past january I was expecting to go out for dinner and for the usual presents like always but he made me dinner (he's a chef and bought me a cake from the grocery store, no flowers no card) I thought it was sweet and didn't think about

Hollie

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Registered: 04-13-2010
Sun, 04-24-2011 - 12:29pm
I may be chiming in a bit late here....sorry! My birthday was two weeks ago, the big 40 and the only one who remembered was my dd14. Dd14 had to remind my dh the morning of my birthday ( I work nights) so dh made this huge effort to wishe happy birthday. However, there was not even measly card. I could tell the entire thing was bs. Dd14 later comfirmed she had to remind him. This was the first time in 11 years he has forgotten. It was a sad, miserable day. To make it worse, that evening he brought me a card. Then acted insulted that I wasn't thrilled with a cheap after thought. I am sorry your special day didn't turn out as planned.
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Registered: 05-14-2001
Sun, 04-24-2011 - 4:02pm

Aw, I'm sorry that happened to you, Jakesmom.


~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
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Registered: 04-13-2010
Mon, 04-25-2011 - 10:19am
You are such a sweetie! Thank you. My dd14 made it better, she is so thoughtful. Mother's Day is coming up and she is asking me what I would like to do.., and can she have some money to buy me a gift!

I just wanted the OP to know she isn't alone.
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Registered: 04-28-2011
Fri, 04-29-2011 - 12:23am

yes it was sweet that your husband got you cards, flowers and balloons, but every year is a bit "unthoughtful"= not thinking. Just doing what is EASY and convenient. You are a grown woman and after being together for sometime, I would want my man to notice things I like. I would hate if my man, as a ritual, bought me the same thing year after year. I mean, what if he bought you the same exact neckless every year...nothing different, same exact neckless. Yes it would be nice, but do you want the exact same neckless every bday?? Would anyone?

I guess like the other poster said, go let him know the you would love the spa treatment, then every year, about 2-3 weeks before your bday give him a list of a few things you would like. If he then buys you balloons, flowers and cards...kick him to the curb...lol

Maybe he is buying you what he likes, so for his next bday get him balloons, flowers and cards....he would love them.

Happy belated birthday!!!

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