No Sex Life & Boyfriend posting ads on Craigslist
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|Fri, 07-19-2013 - 9:49pm|
Since January my boyfriend and I have not had sex, I've tried to initate to no avail. We are living together and will have been together a year in Aug. He says the reason he doesn't want to have sex is because he's unhappy with how he looks (he's always been big, but apparently has gained some weight, I can't tell.) Tonight I went into his office to print some things I needed and when I went to Gmail, it automatically pulled up his account. I'll admit it, I snooped (I've previously caught him watching porn in there, but that doesn't really bother me.) What I found was that he has been posting ads in the casual enouter portion of craigslist. He has had women respond, and he's responded to them. I didn't see any evidence that he met with someone, but he's has disappeared in the afternoons for hours, and he does get up much earlier than me (this morning without me asking he provided a long explaniation of what he did while waiting for a parking spot to open (they are paving 1/2 our complex this morning.) Now after seeing the ads, reading the emails, I am suspious that he is and has been cheating on me. It's weird because we've always said we both would rather end the relationship than cheat. He is 18 years older than me, and we've had a lot of stress in our lives lately because I've been out of work but I am searching, just with no luck. I honestly don't know what to do, do I confront him and admit I snooped, or do I let it go and keep trying to reactivate our sex life? It's also a tough position because I have no money and no where else to live. I honestly love him, and when we do go out we have fun together, we are also trying to exercise together. This is my first real relationship so I'm still a newbie at this. He does otherwise treat me like a princess, he cooks for me, makes sure I have my vitamins, spend time with me (mostly when we go out, not so much at home.) (Side note, he works from home and is addicted to his work and also a game he plays online.) Any advice would be appreciated.