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|Tue, 10-22-2013 - 12:42pm|
My boyfriend and I have an amazing relationship. We fell madly in love and see each other as "the one". We plan to get married soon, our 2nd marriage for both of us. We are in our 30's, and I have children from my previous marriage. BF is an amazing person. He is loyal, funny, sweet, romantic, cuddly and would do anything for me and my kids. Picture perfect storybook romance. I have never felt so happy in my entire life, and he says he hasn't either. We fit pretty amazingly together.
On to my issue. He is bi-polar and took himself off his medication. I have not seen any major differences in him as far as day to day. I don't think he's super bad in that area. He may get sad some days, but it takes just a little being silly from me to cheer him up. He doesn't go into depressions or anything of that nature.
We had a huge issue yesterday regarding his dog that lives with us. I am very allergic and have dealth with being sick over it for months now. I finally sat down and talked to him and told him the dog needs to be outside, or re-homed. His personality automatically changed. He started screaming at me and getting very angry. (No, the kids were not here). He starts blaming me for all sorts of things that are completely unrelated and saying I am a dog hater. This went on for hours, and at times his anger scared me. I am not use to fighting with someone that way. I prefer to sit down and calmly discuss an issue. He has told me in the past that in his previous marriage the only way they argued was by screaming and throwing things. That completely shocks me coming from him, such a sweet person. This "new" personality just put me into utter shock. Once I started crying, he calmed down and apologized and said what he said he didn't mean, and that when he felt attacked he felt that he had to scream to make his point, and say mean things to hurt the person who is hurting him.
Now I love this man with all my heart. We have only fought like this 2 times in our entire relationship, both over the dog allergies. I am so confused if I should just let him and the dog move out, and be done with this relationship...because I do not want this anger thing to be an issue for the rest of our married lives. Our relationship is still pretty fresh (8 months), so getting out now would be better than to wait years until I've had enough. The thing is, when our relationship is good (98% of the time), it is amazing. Everything I've ever dreamt of, and I do not want to lose that because I may never find that with anyone again.