Not Too Thrilled About Moving...AGAIN!

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Registered: 02-12-2007
Not Too Thrilled About Moving...AGAIN!
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Wed, 10-13-2010 - 6:26pm

My hubby and I have been married for nearly 21 years and we have 2 daughters...one in college; one in 8th grade.

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Registered: 01-28-2005
Wed, 10-13-2010 - 6:55pm

I don't have any advice for you. Just a perspective from the other side of the coin. I got a job and I am uprooting my DH to move across the state, and though he is saying he is supportive, he is anything but. It almost cost us our marriage. Granted, this is our first move, not 7th. But the fighting, the complaining, has put a huge toll on me. I think that women are a lot better at dealing with these things than men are, in fact, we are so good that they do not see the sacrifice we are making. I am loosing the life I made for myself here too. I have great

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Registered: 02-12-2007
Wed, 10-13-2010 - 7:53pm

Thank you for your reply.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 10-13-2010 - 9:19pm

I think from your DH's point of view, he's probalby thinking that he doesn't have much of a choice so you could complain about it but really what is the alternative?

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Registered: 05-14-2001
Thu, 10-14-2010 - 2:01am

Welcome to the board, Doxie64 ~

It seems to me that you have two - or maybe


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Registered: 07-29-2002
Thu, 10-14-2010 - 8:42am
I know how you feel. We have moved 5 times so far. And we will more than likely move a few more times. The industry DH is in, just simply functions in this manner. While Im not all entirely thrilled with our current location. The thought of moving again also really weighs heavily on my shoulders. I know for certain our oldest will not be happy about it when it does happen, although she knows it is inevitable.

I know for me a big part of the issue I have is starting all over again. There is getting to know a new area. Getting settled into yet another house. Getting to know a whole new set of people......... It is daunting.

And while I too am a SAHM. It is tough to figure out how to get myself re-established yet again. What projects can I take on. What can I get involved in. A majority of my hobbies are very portable. Since I never really know how invested I can get into a local group. I would love to volunteer more, but I don't necessarily know if I can make the commitment to an organization that they would need from me. The last place I volunteered at, I was there long enough to learn my role and than found out we were moving.

I was considering going back to school, since we moved to an area that has some decent universities available. But we are more than likely not staying here long enough to justify that sort of endeavor.

I am fortunate that my DH does understand the toll it takes on us. And he does his best to compensate for that. Activities for the kids are always first established to give them an outlet. But unlike him who walks into a new job and kind of already has a social network going. The kids and I walk into yet another clean slate and have to start with almost nothing. It is an overwhelming process.

And you know the irony of it all. DH left the Army so we could be more stable and stay in one place..... Oh well.
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Registered: 05-18-2009
Thu, 10-14-2010 - 11:00am

Do you work?

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Thu, 10-14-2010 - 1:16pm

I know what you mean about the moving. My H was AF for 6 years and we moved 3 time in those 6 years to different states. Then when he got out we went back to our hometown which I loved, however that job only lasted 9 months and we had

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Registered: 01-28-2005
Thu, 10-14-2010 - 1:31pm

To original poster, re venting.

I feel a great deal of guilt for moving my husband away for my job. So when he is too vocal about his frustrations I feel very

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Thu, 10-14-2010 - 2:13pm

Before my husband retired, we were Wal-Martians, and moved frequently.

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Registered: 05-14-2001
Fri, 10-15-2010 - 12:39am


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