Not Too Thrilled About Moving...AGAIN!

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Registered: 02-12-2007
Not Too Thrilled About Moving...AGAIN!
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Wed, 10-13-2010 - 6:26pm

My hubby and I have been married for nearly 21 years and we have 2 daughters...one in college; one in 8th grade.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Fri, 10-15-2010 - 7:27am

I guess I don't know why having a kid in 8th grade and one in college warrants needing a stay at home mom (and I say this because my mom was a SAHM from the time I was born until my youngest brother left the house). I agree with the suggestion to compromise and ask him not to move before your youngest is done with high school, but really, if your husband is the only one making money then realistically you have to think about how your family is going to be supported if you don't move to where the money is. I know you're not "crazy" about the idea but if you want to have more leverage, then maybe you should consider working yourself, even part time.

Frankly, I'm not sure what about your point of view you want your husband to get. You don't feel like moving again. That's not complicated, I'm sure he gets that part, but what do you want to do about it? What do you want HIM to do about it? You understand that moving makes sense, do you just want him to listen to you vent? What do you want to change?

If you want major change in the form of moving back to east TN, then maybe you need to initiate a plan and come up with ways on how to do that, along with a time frame. You can enlist his help on this. What are your dreams and what do you need in order to get them?

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Fri, 10-15-2010 - 1:14pm
No, she just said she wanted to realize her dreams. I think she should be specific in telling her husband what she wants to do, and that she plans to do it in their new home on the Gulf Coast.

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