Not yet Engaged.still!?
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|Fri, 06-24-2011 - 9:39pm|
I’m sorry. This is a vent. Any comments or advice are welcome.
Next year is our 3 year anniversary of our relationship. Inside I am really having a hard time feeling remotely happy about it. I’ve been dealing with anger toward him for a few weeks because I really EXPECTED the proposal about this time. I’ve been impatient or anxious before, but since I knew going into the relationship it would be a long one pre-marriage, and since he has made it 100% clear that he is desiring and committed to marrying me as soon as he can …well, I guess I felt any impatience was just something to be overcome on my part. We’ve never talked dates or set a goal, but I had “in mind” it would probably get engaged this year and get married next. That’s four years total and that seemed an eternity at the beginning. We’re both very decided and I have no doubts that he plans to marry me. But when?!
He has specific financial independence goals he wants to reach before getting married. I know that but I don’t know what they are and I don’t know if he’s getting any closer to reaching them. He just never talks about it. He talks about getting married, about wishing it were now…but he talks about it in the distant future like he always has! It’s like he’s never had a “NOW” moment. He’s younger than me, just turned 25….and he knows I want to be engaged a year (wedding will be in my home country, not where I live) and I want to get married before 30 (no good reason for that) and I’m about to turn 28 and I don’t know if I can stand another year of where we are…I feel like we’re ready in every way EXCEPT his financial goals and that he needs to establish a specific time goal and make it happen.