Opinions needed

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Registered: 09-23-2011
Opinions needed
Fri, 09-23-2011 - 10:32am

Hi all, I would like your opinion on this:

Me and my boyfriend are in our late 30's, we have been together for about a year and have started talking about moving in together next summer. We both have had previous relationships and we both know about each other's past.

Last week his ex, with whom he lived for 2 years, with her two young children

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 09-23-2011 - 10:42am

I think that ignoring her is the best tactic--if he contacted her, that would be the opening she needed to start talking to him.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Fri, 09-23-2011 - 12:54pm

He is 100% correct that ignoring her is the best approach.

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Registered: 05-14-2001
Sun, 09-25-2011 - 10:22pm

You're mad at him for what, how he's decided to respond to her, because he's been kind despite her being mean or what?

~ cl-2nd_life

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 09-29-2011 - 7:57pm
I wonder about the longer term prospects for it sounds like he has not fully ended the relationship with her. Is he still paying her bills? I wonder if he can be pulled back from caring for her?
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Registered: 09-23-2011
Tue, 10-11-2011 - 5:51pm

Thanks everyone for replying.

Your advices were very helpful and after the initial shock I agree that ignoring her is the thing to do.

mhash, he's not paying her bills. He did it for a while (too long as I see it) when they broke up, but that was a couple of years ago. I understand what you mean, and I guess that's what I was afraid of...but rationally I don't think he wants her back in any way. I do think she tries to use the children to get his attention so when we