overstressed hubby looking for a way out
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|Wed, 01-20-2010 - 11:45pm|
My husband has been under an extreme amount of stress. His father died a year and a half ago and it has just destroyed his family. He is the oldest son in his family and so his father left his business to him.
After his dad died, his brother who had previous issues with drugs went back in a way that was significantly worse than before. It got so bad that my husband had to fire him from work as he was using on the job and drugs were found in the company vehicles.
As if this wasn't worse enough, his mother (whose cancer was in remission for nearly a decade) returned just before Thanksgiving in a very aggressive way (tumors on the brain and lung) and had to undergo surgery. He spent any free time helping her to recover from surgery.
He is the one that everyone leans on and refuses to turn to any outlets. He has always sensed when something was bothering me and offers to talk about it and knows just the right things to do/say to make it all better. He is the complete opposite in volunteering information and refuses to admit or reveal what is bothering him.
Last week, after a significant period after the romance in our relationship departed, he said that he wanted to discuss our relationship and talked about trying out a separation for a while. I honestly don't want him to leave, I don't see him much as it is since he is working so much.
He has refused couples counseling in the past when we have had problems, and so I am not counting on him (or us) seeking counseling now. I just don't know what to do, I really don't want to lose him. He is the only man that I've ever loved and I just don't know what I would do without him.
Does anyone have advice on how to deal with this?