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|Sat, 08-25-2012 - 11:00am|
We've been together for over two and a half rocky years now. Recently I moved away because there seemed no hope for us and I thought the distance would do us good, but the fact is we really do love each other and even 70 miles and not speaking for 5 weeks didn't change that we want to be together.
There are a lot of issues between us, but from my point of view the one that I think is causing the most problems is his paranoia and lack of trust. It really doesn't matter what I do, I could be Mother Theresa, he will always twist it into something bad. There is no way of pleasing the man. I always have a hidden agenda or a dirty secret, even if I'm sat on my own reading. He has so many stories in his head that he has totally made up but he's convinced himself that they're true and I'm a terrible, terrible person.
I've tried being totally open, I've tried hiding anything he might make an issue of, I've tried ignoring him and doing whatever makes me happy but nothing changes his behaviour and I am so tired of it. As far as trust goes his behaviour has been far worse than mine!
He seems to have a lot of trust issues that stem from family and previous relationships.
I don't want to lose him but I won't keep livign like this. Can anybody offer any suggestions please?