past relationship- still present

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2003
past relationship- still present
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Sat, 06-21-2003 - 5:53pm
Married - it is very important to get that out from the start. There is this guy from my past that we have history together. The good, the bad and the ugly but we never married because he never considered me as marriage material, moreso we had an intense sexual relationship (Distant love - military). Yet, he keeps popping into my present and insists that we were meant to be together but when the door was open for him to make me his wife - it never materialized. He was married twice and now divorced - I am currently in my second marriage of 10 years - shaky for various reasons. The back of my mind wonders if we ever got together - would it be that fantasy relationship that you only dream of or because we had a relationship of intense ups and downs would it sizzle and fail. Better yet, why am I even thinking about it?
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-20-2003
Wed, 06-25-2003 - 1:10am
This situation is causing you problems, and I don't see how you can possibly even begin to work on your marriage if you continue talking with this ex lover or fantasize about the two of you being together. It didn't work out then, and it probably won't work out now. Work on your marriage or get out of it. I still wouldn't advise hooking up with this ex though because it just sounds to me like some big fantasy, and when it was reality, the two of you didn't mesh into marriage material.