Picture Phones

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Registered: 03-25-2006
Picture Phones
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Sun, 03-26-2006 - 12:05am
I have been very unhappy since I found some pictures of a young girl of age early twenties in my husband's cell phone, they were of her breast and between her legs and also some text messages about how she miss talking to him. I had a feeling something was going on with him and started looking around and found them. He swims six days a week and five of them I go with him and lately I haven't gone and usually he leaves his cell at home now he takes it with him. He has a full time job with the city and a part time job and I know his hours keep him from being able to be with her, and don't think that sex has taken place yet, I'm not dumb to think it won't. You have to know him to know that he loves his job more that anything and I even have to take a back seat, it is like being married to a doctor. I just don't know how to deal with the hurt or how to handle telling him I know what is going on with him. I know more about computers than him and have gone into his messages he has sent to this girl online and the ad he put online. It sounds like someone that just wants to play. I know we don't get as feaky as we use to and most of it is because of how he treat me. I mean we have done some really feaky things, that is why I don't understand this. Please help me out.
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Registered: 08-04-2003
In reply to: kai777
Sun, 03-26-2006 - 6:52pm

Print everything out so he can't deny it, because believe me he will try.

Sorry you have to go through this.


Carrie

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: kai777
Sun, 03-26-2006 - 11:54pm

Personally, I would have to know what I was going to do about the situation before I approached him, it sounds like you're not at all certain what you expect/would demand from him in response to what you know, as well as what you will do if it continues. This is more than "taking a back seat", it is cheating, pure and simple, regardless of whether he's had sex or not. What's his excuse going to be? That he doesn't know why this person sent the pictures to him? If that's the case, wouldn't he have deleted them immediately? This is not part of "taking a back seat to his profession", no one's profession authorizes them to cheat, no one's profession authorizes them to have nude, lewd pictures of other women.


I strongly urge you to repost on the Betrayed Spouses Support board. They can offer you the kind of help and support you need in dealing with this situation.


I'm so sorry this is happening to you.







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Registered: 03-10-2006
In reply to: kai777
Mon, 03-27-2006 - 12:18am
did the girl send the pictures or did he take the pictures?