pictures of ex.

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Registered: 01-18-2010
pictures of ex.
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Mon, 01-18-2010 - 12:10pm
my partner and i have been together almost a year and are thinking of moving in together, so pretty serious. my partner has children from a previous relationship and at the moment lives with his parents. in the study, there are pictures of him, his ex and children, which is absolutely fine, but then there are ones of just the two of them. also i was looking at photos on his phone (as there are pics of our days out) and found a pic of his ex and another of her cleveage. it doesnt bother me too much but would be nice if he didnt have them, dont you think?

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Registered: 05-18-2009
In reply to: ahveld
Mon, 01-18-2010 - 12:14pm
Yup, it would be nice if he didn't have them.
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Registered: 01-18-2010
In reply to: ahveld
Mon, 01-18-2010 - 12:31pm
yea me too lol. he doesnt even get on with her. probably forgotten they were on there.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: ahveld
Mon, 01-18-2010 - 1:14pm
Welcome to the board, Ahveld ~

Regarding his parents' pictures of her, I wouldn't be at all concerned about them; in fact, I think it says good things about them that should be pluses to you. If nothing else, she is still the kids' mother and keeping pictures of her out tells the kids she's welcome and she's still a part of the family. It may mean that they are friendly with her and still have contact with her. Unless they're obsessive and exclusive (treat you badly), it means they're open minded and look at people individually and that their feelings for her are genuine. I don't know about you, but I hate family members who treat someone wonderfully until a divorce, then cut them out of their lives. Kinda makes you aware that the relationship you have with them isn't real and is contingent on you staying with their family member.

As far as the pictures on his phone go, I have to say I've been surprised by the pictures I've found on my phone - totally forgotten that they existed. How often do people go through their phone pics anyway? In regard to cleaveage, are you saying it's strictly a boob shot? Or is it a head shot with her wearing something low cut? What exactly are you talking about?











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Registered: 12-18-2009
In reply to: ahveld
Mon, 01-18-2010 - 1:37pm
"probably forgotten they were on there." How about playfully reminding him? You could say by referring to going through your own pictures and finding some very old ones which dont have any significance anymore and you just forgot to delete them.. something on these lines.
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Registered: 01-18-2010
In reply to: ahveld
Mon, 01-18-2010 - 2:29pm
hi, the first photo was just her sitting there and the 2nd was just of her chest pushing her cleveage up in a low cut top. the photos in his parents house really dont bother me, they were together a very long time, and she did live there. i often have chats with the children about they're time with their mother. im never awkward to them if they mention her, so there really is no issue there. the photos on his phone i do think he has just forgotten about them and probably wont mention it or do as cherry sai
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Registered: 01-18-2010
In reply to: ahveld
Mon, 01-18-2010 - 2:33pm
was just curious to how you would all feel/react.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: ahveld
Mon, 01-18-2010 - 2:45pm
Quite honestly, a picture that only showed the chest of some woman who's pushing up her cleavage would disturb me whether it was a picture of an ex or anyone else. Personally, I'd ask him what the heck that was doing in his pictures. Kinda like if you had a picture of some guy in his shorts grabbing his package, you know? Uuuuh, why would you have that????

I'm glad you're not upset about the pictures at his parents house. Personally, I don't see why personal friendships should have to end when relationships do.












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Registered: 05-04-2007
In reply to: ahveld
Mon, 01-18-2010 - 5:06pm

... Because boobs are fun to look at. Whoever they belong to.


I'd worry if BF didn't have a picture of boobs.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: ahveld
Mon, 01-18-2010 - 7:10pm
Yikes













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Registered: 05-18-2009
In reply to: ahveld
Mon, 01-18-2010 - 7:33pm
I think I had the same reaction. I consider myself pretty open-minded but having a picture of the ex-wife's boobs on the cell phone would be pretty uncool with me.

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