Police know truth-Exboyfriends abuse

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Registered: 07-23-2002
Police know truth-Exboyfriends abuse
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Fri, 04-14-2006 - 3:23pm

I just want to say, "Thank you for all the help that you have given to me for the past 1 1/2 years. I probably wouldn't have moved out of my ex-boyfriends house, seeked an abusive counselor, and finally realizing that the relationship was detrimental.

You will be happy to know that the Police dept. of the city in which my ex-boyfriend applied at to become a police officer, contacted me for some information about him. They had already heard from others that he had a temper but they asked me in detail the things that occured in our relationship. Off the record, I told of many many things that he did to me, the glass in my head, my back thrown through the sheetrock, all the punched holes in the wall, all the holes from objects thrown at me, and all the doors off the hinges etc. Well, they encouraged me afterwards to put in on the record or it would do know good. Anyway, remember my friend through acquaintance who was dating his best friend who was a police officer? Well, she asked that I give them her name and number and I did. She even told them more things that she knew while going out with him and her boyfriend as well as some abuse that I had told her but didn't tell the police. Well, the police went to his house and walked around and saw everything I had said happened and it just confirmed my story.

Anyway, I thought you would all want to know that justice has been done, he probably won't be a police officer with his violent temper anytime soon. He also tried to discredit me by saying that I started to go to church and became a religious, psycho, nut-case. He told them that the only reason why he went to counseling was because I made him and that he didn't need it.

I know this sounds silly, but I cried last night because of the hurt he must be feeling. I kept thinking that it wouldn't have come down to this had he seriously looked at his temper and had delt with it. I felt like I had ruined his life but the police reassured me that those were his choices and not mine and he needs to live with the outcome of his choices.

He actually called a couple of times, which the police do know about now, and put the guilt trip on me to only say positive things and leave out the negative because this was his life that we were dealing with. I told him that it was in God's hands now. He said, "No, it's in our hands". I repeated what I had said again.

There are so many people who have helped me on this board and I am sure you all are happy to hear the news. I do feel terrible but I have to remember that these were his choices and I am not one to lie to the police.

Thanks again!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2004
Fri, 04-14-2006 - 9:39pm
You did the right thing. I hope this will be a step for you in letting go of the past and embracing the future.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-14-2006 - 11:16pm

Agree 100% with Geo.


What your ex is doing now is facing the consequences of his actions, as he should. I'm sure it's destroyed any hope he has of becoming a police officer, but he would have been an awful, dangerous, police officer; the kind who abuses his power and authority, the kind that gives good officers a bad name; not a help, but a danger. Keeping him off the force keeps the community safer.







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