Read "Relationship Saver" by Samardzic?
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Read "Relationship Saver" by Samardzic?
| Wed, 09-06-2006 - 3:16am |
There is an online book that I found at www.fix-my-marriage.com by Radomir Samardzic called The Relationship Saver. Has anyone read this book? What's this guy's take on saving a marriage- it sounds like he probably has a different approach then normal marriage counseling books, but the ebook itself costs $30, so if it's a crock, then I don't want to have wasted my money.

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Thanks for your validation. And, you made some good points in your last post. Some things that I have discovered are
* I depend on my husband too much for entertainment, so I need to do more hobbies outside of the home, and give him time to relax and unwind after work.
* If I want us to go out, I need to take the initiative and invite him out.
These last few days I have put both of these into practice and this last weekend we had a really good time out of the house...and, I have to confess that it helped me to feel more in the mood for romance in the bedroom.
I'd like to respond more to your message but I have to run for now. I'll be back later. Thanks for all of your feedback, cl-2nd.
I would suggest a book called "Love in the Present Tense" by Morrie and Arleah Schechtman...It explains alot of feelings that couples may have and stages that they may go through in a relationship and how to go about getting out of the "rut".
Believe me,,,Im always looking for another book to tell me how to get throught to my H, and some work, and some dont! I know how you feel Eurowife about the lack of romance and attentiveness from your husband. It seems like you are the only one trying or concerned about the relationship...and that he does not appreciate all that you do around the house and for him. I have the same issue, and sometimes I go on "strike" for a few days with his laundry and dishes and the like until I cant take it anymore! I feel better about it, for whatever reason I dont know. I dont make the point to him, but I am not as angry or hurt afterwards. Getting out to do things with other friends is a great idea, and I try to do that, but it seems like then I am ignoring the issue to concentrate my energies on something to take my mind off of the problem at home. I guess its all about what you can live with and what you cant!
~ cl-2nd_life"Experience is what you get
when you don't get what you want."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
It sounds like you have some ongoing issues, problems and frustrations in your marriage that you haven't been able to find a solution to as yet. I hope you'll consider posting your own post about the problems you're having, we may be able to help.
~ cl-2nd_life"Experience is what you get
when you don't get what you want."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
Well, I did end up buying the e-book online and it’s got pretty basic advice. I need to emphasize again that my marriage isn't headed for divorce or anything, but I was feeling that my husband was taking me for granted, so in return, I was moody and depressed a lot. Deep down I knew that acting that way with my husband would only make us both miserable, so I have tried to change how I react, even if he doesn't change how he acts (but, he has actually responded really well to my change in attitude, and he actually took me out on Saturday night and bought me flowers on Sunday.)
I just want to say that really, I don’t see that me getting out of the house means that I’m trying to run away from a problem. I mean, if I were getting out of the house ALL of the time, then that could indicate that I was running away from the relationship, but I do think it’s healthy for couples to have their own activities at least once in awhile. Also, one piece of advice that book gave was that if you do go out with your friends or family (especially to give you time apart) don’t complain to them about your husband because complaining will only make the problems seem worse and since your family and friends love you, they will only tend to agree with you. I am going to get involved with the Green Political Party here in Europe once or twice a week. Also, I’m going to try to get out to have a tea with my friends at least once a week. Anyway, these are my goals for now. Also, as far as getting more help around the house, the only thing I can do is ask sweetly a few times, really praise him when he does it, or imagine how good it would feel to hit him over the head with a pillow!
Sounds like you have a great plan going!
I will have to address the other issues that my poor mind has at a later time! Sorry so long and drawn out. Thanks in advance!
Dawn
I'm looking forward to seeing your post!
~ cl-2nd_life"Experience is what you get
when you don't get what you want."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
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