"romantic" COUPLE's cruise

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Registered: 12-11-2011
"romantic" COUPLE's cruise
Sun, 12-11-2011 - 9:02pm
My bf, of 2 yrs, &i planned a couple's cruise to the bahamas july 11' for spring break 12'. It's supposed to only be us two to get away & enjoy each other for once with no interruptions. Although we each invited one couple from our list of friends, they won't be attending because they don't have funds. He didn't mind that at all & was more excited for it to be only us. The cruise was his idea to "avoid all of the hot spots, same people, &parties during break".

He informed his mother of our cruise &of the purpose of it. "that's gonna be nice. Me &al were going to mexico. But we can go with ya'll instead. We're gonna have fun" She invited herself & her boyfriend on our cruise. He did nothing to prevent it. A couple if hours ago, he told me that she called &said that his two younger brothers, 15 & 10, will be joining us as well & that his mom said it'll be a family cruise.

I told him that I didn't like that they made changes to OUR plans & that I'm the last to know. He replied, "what's the difference we're going on a cruise. If they wanna come, they can. I didn't change anything. at least I told you ahead of time. I can't stop them. We invited our friends. It shouldn't matter if they come or not. we don't have to be with them. What? Rig don't want nobody going with us?"

I told him that his family &our friends who are a couple are two different things. he argues that I shouldn't have a problem with it. He always changes our plans, letting people interfere& I'm always the last to know. He is inconsiderate of my feelings. I'm not excited about this "romantic" cruise anymore.
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Registered: 05-14-2001
Mon, 12-12-2011 - 12:15am

Welcome to the board, Nelaspiel ~

It's true that your boyfriend isn't responsible for his mother's choices, but I get you -- he should have reinforced that the cruise was meant as a romantic getaway for the two of you and that you didn't want company.

~ cl-2nd_life