School or something else?

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Registered: 10-02-2009
School or something else?
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Tue, 04-12-2011 - 12:51pm

Hi everyone,

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Tue, 04-12-2011 - 1:01pm

The grass is always greener?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-06-2007
Tue, 04-12-2011 - 1:11pm

Hi franny_zooey,

Hey we have some similarities!

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Registered: 10-02-2009
Tue, 04-12-2011 - 1:17pm

To answer your question, I was in a relationship over 2 years ago where I was clearly unhappy but I stayed in it hoping it would get better. The relationship I am in now is nothing like that one but that is one instance I have made a poor decision. Also, I am quite susceptible to charming men. I easily start to have feelings and I can find myself falling for the wrong ones a lot. I know that it is possible to have feelings for more than one person, and I tend to do that (I have done this in multiple relationships). I just have a hard time doing what is "right".

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009
Tue, 04-12-2011 - 1:26pm

Thinking about the newness and charm of this guy has given you something of a distraction from all of the stress and anxiety in your life right now.

If you think about it realistically... Your boyfriend is better, proven that he's a good person to you, and your only problem is in your personal environment that won't last forever.

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Registered: 09-06-2007
Tue, 04-12-2011 - 1:39pm
I think stagnation every now and then in a relationship is normal. Maybe do something different for your next date. Or plan something this weekend that is new for you two.

How long have you had this other guy in your eye?
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Registered: 10-02-2009
Tue, 04-12-2011 - 7:24pm
I only have two more months luckily! I just think I have to change a few things in my life and open myself up to things I enjoy. I think I have had some sort of spiritual shut down and I am looking to men to spark something new in me. Like you said, this new guys is making me "hallucinate" a bit and is some sort of relief from the pressure.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-02-2009
Tue, 04-12-2011 - 7:24pm
Also, you answer your question. It has only been about two weeks.
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Registered: 05-14-2001
Wed, 04-13-2011 - 12:39am

Welcome to the board, Franny_zooey ~

There are a few things that are obvious....

The cause of tension/stress in your relationship will be over in two weeks.

You say you feel guilt in your relationship because of time constraints and that the time constraints are because of your schedule.


~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
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Registered: 01-03-2004
Wed, 04-13-2011 - 11:51am

Franny,

So you're too tired and stressed to invest in your current relationship;