Selfish man or not ?

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Registered: 05-14-2009
Selfish man or not ?
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Mon, 07-18-2011 - 7:50pm

Many of you may remember me from past post . Ive been in a LD relationship for 2 yrs

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 8:19pm

Livlafluv, I am very familiar with your predicament.

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Registered: 05-14-2009
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 9:02pm

I appreciate your truthfulness and I dont really know what I want to hear . I guess this the result of why I heard people say that you should heal and be alone for a while

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Registered: 05-14-2009
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 9:02pm

I appreciate your truthfulness and I dont really know what I want to hear . I guess this the result of why I heard people say that you should heal and be alone for a while

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Registered: 05-14-2001
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 9:57pm

Welcome back, Livlafluv2009 ~

I want to provide the links to your previous posts so that others can get a better feel for your situation and history, and so you can have the opportunity to read through them.


~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
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Registered: 04-16-2008
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 11:51pm

Whether he's selfish or not may not be the issue as much as whether you both (and the whole situation) are compatible with each other. You want and need more than he is willing to give. You want a man that is more generous with a few dollars and his time spent with you. It's really not practical with your daughter and all for you to move and he's not willing to move where you live either. I know you love him, but the question is how long are you willing to accept the situation as it is? Between your parents and you DD you feel obligated to stay put I really think you'd be much better off by yourself with your kids or finding someone to date that lives in your area. Would be so much easier on you and your DD, not to mention financially too. You obviously haven't been happy with the situation as is for a long time now and it isn't going to change anytime soon as long as you continue to settle for the relationship as it is.

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Tue, 07-19-2011 - 8:33am
livlafluv2009 wrote:

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 07-19-2011 - 11:38am

I would say that if you're not in therapy you should be.

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Registered: 05-14-2009
Tue, 07-19-2011 - 1:47pm

You are so right in everything you are saying . Thank You ! I guess I have it in my head that if I hear it 99 times the 100th one would really help me . I am having a problem and it makes me sick to imagine someone else who lives near him that has the flexablity to move with him and has plenty of money would be happy with him . That is a feeling that stems from being insecure

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Tue, 07-19-2011 - 3:54pm
You know not all relationships are supposed to be everlasting. You can get a great deal from short lived relationships, and when they then run their course, they turn sour.

This guy helped you through the end of your marriage. But it sounds like that is all he was intended for. Now it is time to move on and find yourself in a new chapter of life.
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Tue, 07-19-2011 - 5:51pm

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