Shocked and heart broken
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|Sat, 08-25-2012 - 1:01am|
I have been married to my DH for almost 11 years and we have two kids together. Everything was going on nice and smooth untill one day. I had gone to my parents place for few months to spend some time with them and take care of my ailing mom.
I used to talk with my husband every day and know about his well-being. Gradually he stopped calling me and showed very little interest in knowing about us. This worried me and i came back as soon as possible.
He behaved very differently and on much pursuation he came out with the reason ....he said he has recently got a blood test done which confirms that he has a genetic abnormality and this defect causes infertility. In other words, he thinks that the kids are not his and i have been unfaithful to him.
When i heard this from him, i totally lost my temper and asked him to pinpoint someone/anyone he thinks could be the alleged father. To this he kept quiet and said he does not know but he can be at peace only after getting the paternity testing.
For few weeks we were fighting over it as i was not against the testing but i had felt very offended and insulted.
He would also sometimes behave normal as if nothing happened and then all of sudden become very quiet and least interested in me. I checked his emails and facebook and phone details, he is not involved with anyone and he thinks that once the test results assure him that he is indeed the father, he would be ok.
Finally i agreed and got the test done and as expected, he is the father of both kids as he has been the only man in my life.
My problem is that this whole thing has shaken my self-esteem so badly that i don,t feel like respecting this person anymore.
I want something substantial to reaasure me that he would not behave again in this immature way again. I simply want to move out of this relationship but
he is and was always very loving and caring to the kids
has never cheated on me
he is basically a nice person
What should i do to regain my trust in him..should i give him another chance?