should i approach him about this?
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should i approach him about this?
| Fri, 08-25-2006 - 9:33am |
I recently have been having nightmares that my bf is cheating on me(we have been together for 3 years). I can't stop thinking about it and i want to ask him but i dont want him getting ofensive and mad at me for asking. I know i shouldnt have done this but i logged into his myspace account and he and this girl have been messaging each other back and forth saying how she misses his voice and he gave her his number. I know it was very wrong of me to do this but now im hurt even more this plus the dreams. i want to approach this but i dont know what i should do. any advice would be helpful for i am very upset about this. :frown:

Beak up with this guy cause neither of you have the basic skills to have a healthy relationship....honesty, trust, and fidelity...among others. Once out of this relationship get your self some serious therapy since your way of dealing with an issue is to invade the privacy of someone you supposedly love and if this is the way you act you will never have a healthy relationship.
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Besides your dreams, what made you suspect he wasn't being faithful? You said you want to ask him about it but you don't want him to get mad or offended; I don't understand that statement because from what you found, it sounds like he is being inappropriate with another girl, or are you saying the messaging wasn't necessarily suspicious? But then again, if his contact with her was appropriate, you wouldn't be hurt, right?
So what do you want to approach him about, the dream that doesn't necessarily mean anything and is beyond his control, some behaviors or signs that gave you concerns before your dreams began or the contact he's having with this other girl (if it's not appropriate)?
How old are you two?
~ cl-2nd_life"Experience is what you get
when you don't get what you want."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
Edited 8/30/2006 7:25 am ET by intuition_girl0727
i would pretend i never even saw the messages and just tell him about your dreams-- then just every now and then for a couple days mention how you are a little nervous about them. see what he says and if he lies then maybe tell him you visited his myspace. but then im also only 19 so this may be an imature way of going about it. i dunno. but thats what i would do.