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|Wed, 11-14-2012 - 9:45pm|
I'm not new to the boards but I haven't written in a while. Things have always been wonderful between me & my guy (minus the normal ups & downs). Recently though I started a new full-time job that's very taxing, keeps me away from home every weekday on day shift & the worst part about it is that my SO works nightshift. Put two and two together & you see that we basically never see each other. Since it is rare for us to have time to talk about ANYTHING, the only thing that we seem to talk about when we DO see each other are things that are unpleasant like bills, or upcoming worries, yadda yadda. I have always been the one to manage finances & organize our household income information, so I'm very familiar with the exact amounts we need every month. It's always been workable where we work it out but since starting a new job with better pay, things have gotten a little harder in the budget department as far as balancing the amount we each put toward our household expenses. That's really not the biggest problem though, the basic problem is, as i said, we never see each other.
How in the world do you handle this? We've been together almost 6 years so I know we're good for it, we just lack communication skills. Or rather, I should say, I lack communication skills because as he pointed out to me just tonight, whenever we get into a conversation about unpleasant things or I am upset about something, I shut down. I don't know if it's because of past failed relationships or what but I have a horrible time. I usually shut up, stay quiet & cry.
Can anyone offer any advice??