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|Sat, 07-12-2014 - 10:52pm|
My boyfriend and I have been together for a couple of years and we have been living together for almost one year. I don't smoke and he does. I don't like the fact that he smokes, I always thought I could NEVER be with a smoker, and then I fell in love with one. :)
What really bothers me about his smoking is this...
Before we leave the house to go out he has a cigarette and I have to wait for him to finish because he doesn't smoke in the car when I am with him (I don't like the smell). When we leave a store or restaurant for example he has to have a smoke before he gets back in the car and I wait for him. After months of this I got tired of waiting for him so often and I gave in and told him he can smoke in the car. After months of that I changed my mind again and told him we can go back to how things were and I'll wait for him becasue I don't like the smell. Now recently he's been trying to quit and has been cutting down on the cigarettes which has been REALLY nice on my end. He's still smoking, but not as much. He's been smoking mostly when I'm not around, which I am grateful for. Just today, we were heading out and he lights up just as I opened my car door. LoL, I sort of snapped at him. I was like "Please don't go back to your old habits!" And I felt myself getting very angry. In my head I was like, "NO! I don't want to go back to how things were!" It may not sound like a big deal, but sometimes it's the little things that can make a big difference! And this is something that really bothers me. I hate when we are out and about and he has to stop and have a cigarette and I am left waiting for him to finish. I can't stand him smoking in the car when I am with him. These are things that didn't bother me so much at first, but now it is just ANNOYING (and sickening) becasue it happens so OFTEN.
Anyway, my question is...do you think it would be unfair of me to ask him to not smoke at certain times? Smoking is part of who he is. I have accepted that. I just can't stand when his smoking affects ME. I actually think it's rude. He's a habit smoker. He doesn't get withdrawl symptoms if he doesn't have a cigarette right away. So I don't see why he just can't wait a little bit until he lights up again.