Snoring fiance...

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Snoring fiance...
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Thu, 10-06-2011 - 8:45pm

My fiance and I have been together for almost 10 months, and have been living together for 3.

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Registered: 01-29-2001
Thu, 10-06-2011 - 8:57pm

As someone who is married to a major snorer, his request is unreasonable -- sleeplessness is not healthy. Oftentimes, snorers just do not understand how disruptive they are to our sleep. The first thing that must happen is he needs to go see an Ear Nose and Throat specialist to see if there is something going on that is making him snore and if there is anything he can do about it. He will most likely go for a sleep study and they will figure things out.

My husband, as it turns out, has sleep apnea and now sleeps with a mask and a CPAP machine which gives off a little white noise. He is now far more rested (he was waking up 48 times an hour with the apnea)

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Registered: 05-01-2010
Thu, 10-06-2011 - 9:15pm
Thanks!! He started a new job a couple of months ago, and he did tell me that once his insurance kicks in, he will go see a dr about it. Hopefully, that will help, although I have a hard time believing that he will actually use a CPAP if it is prescribed.
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Registered: 04-16-2008
Fri, 10-07-2011 - 12:38am
Has he tried those snore strips?
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Registered: 05-14-2001
Fri, 10-07-2011 - 1:45am

Welcome to the board, Bamacoltgirl7 ~

I agre that his request that you try to stay in the room is unreasonable.


~ cl-2nd_life

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Registered: 05-01-2010
Fri, 10-07-2011 - 7:07am
He told me that he has, and he found them very uncomfortable and not effective enough to be worth it.
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Registered: 05-01-2010
Fri, 10-07-2011 - 7:20am
I've suspected for a while that he has sleep apnea. I tried to encourage him a while back to go get treatment for it, but before he and I moved in together, he was a long-haul truck driver, and apparently a diagnosis of sleep apnea is a huge liability in that field and he could have possibly been fired over it. I think his insurance kicks in after 90 days, so that's another month, and he said that he would get checked out at that point. He's not overweight at all, but he does smoke, and I'm trying to get him to quit, because I know it contributes to the snoring. I don't know if he will actually use a CPAP, or any other instrument for that matter. He's very anti-medicine (he has rheumatoid arthritis and refuses to take anything for it), so he will probably turn his nose up at any treatment that is suggested, but I think he understands what a problem it causes for me, so that may inspire him to do it. I don't know, we'll see. Thanks for the advice! :)
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 10-07-2011 - 2:30pm

I hate to say this, but your BF sounds like a kind of unreasonable person.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Fri, 10-07-2011 - 3:58pm

You're engaged after ten months of dating and already trying to change him (smoking, snoring), he's unreasonable in general... Wow, you guys have a really stellar future to look forward to. Consider that this is probably the best your relationship will ever get, and you've already got problems that won't seem so cute in 2, 3 years. I could give you paragraphs of advice here but what it boils down to is you rushing into a huge commitment with the wrong person. Round peg, square hole, all of that.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Fri, 10-07-2011 - 4:12pm

Yep;; that is exactly what that sounds like to me... the wrong people who got together for the sake of getting together .

I for one know that I hate smoking so I would never date or hook up with a smoker.. So OP if you knew your boyfriend was a smoker then why would you date him?? Or maybe you didnt care if he smoked but now that he cant breathe you want him to quit?

Your boyfriend is going to have to take care of his own health and care about his

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Fri, 10-07-2011 - 5:58pm

I too am concerned about him being unreasonable on this issue.

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