snort!! SNORT!! snort!!

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Sat, 03-11-2006 - 12:53am
My boyfriend has this disgusting habit/problem.He'll make this loud snorting noise with his nose over and over again.It's like he's trying to suck snot from his nose down his throat.Sometimes he'll do it for hours on end.He's done this since we met & we've been living together for 3 years.
I commonly wear earplugs or blast my CD walkman. And he knows I cringe everytime I hear it.He swears he can't breath through his nose if he doesnt do it.He swears he has to do it.The thing is when we have company over he won't do it the entire time company is over.When they leave it's "Snort!! snort!! SNORT!!"
What should I do?How do I cope with this??

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Sat, 03-11-2006 - 1:58am

It sounds like a condition called "post nasal drip" For information, see http://www.entnet.org/healthinfo/nose/nasal.cfm

There's absolutely nothing you can do except tell him that an ear, nose and throat specialist can most likely diagnose the problem and give him treatment. He may not be aware that he can do something about it!




Edited 3/11/2006 2:06 am ET by iv_aisha2004
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Sat, 03-11-2006 - 4:18am
see,he already has gone to a dr.i feel lke it might be a twitch or something
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Sat, 03-11-2006 - 5:16am

I'd be recommending he gets a second opinion from a different ENT specialist. Does he snore, have allergies or sinus problems? If so, then I'd be fairly confident in saying that it's not a twitch.

That being said, none of us can diagnose whether it's post nasal drip or a twitch over the internet. The only thing we can tell you is that there's nothing you can do about it.




Edited 3/11/2006 5:20 am ET by iv_aisha2004
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Sat, 03-11-2006 - 5:38am

I agree with Aisha about the second opinion, and also wonder if it could be allergies or a deviated septum. If he feels that he can't breathe, it definitely needs to be pursued. Sometimes we have to be persistent to solve our medical problems. When the doctor says, "I can't find anything wrong," we have to be ready to say, "Then why do I still have these symptoms?"

Another thing that occurs to me is that the mucous membranes in his nasal passages may be swollen. He could try a saline mist or (temprarily) a nasal spray. The doctor can also prescribe a spray called Flonase that a lot of people swear by.

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Sat, 03-11-2006 - 4:40pm
saline doesnt work but sometimes if he soaks in a hot bath the steam aleaviates the pressure.its a year round thing so maybe it could be the smog.we live in san jose calif.so maybe pollution?i have repeatedly begged him to go to another dr.
but why will he stop doing it when people come over?sometimes i believe he'll get carried away with it when he's in 1 of those "tryn to get on my nerves" moods.
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Sat, 03-11-2006 - 4:48pm

Three questions for you:

what does he say when you ask him why he doesn't do it when other people are around?

If his habit drives you nuts, he knows it drives you nuts and he won't see a doctor, why do you stay?

why do you live with a man who deliberately tries to get on your nerves when the mood takes him?

Perhaps your relationship is not made in heaven.




Edited 3/11/2006 4:50 pm ET by iv_aisha2004
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Sun, 03-12-2006 - 2:25am
for him...his bads arent compared to his goods.Thats why I stay.Also when i ask him why do doesnt do it around other people he gives me his look and says "whatever".He is as stubborn as a rock and swears i only believe he doesnt do it when people are around.I know he knows I'm right.I get the feeling when i do tell him anything bout it he gets embarassed.He gets defensive.Ive even tried to come at him with scientific reasons why he shouldnt be tryin to clear his membranes of all mucus.That our bodys produce it for a reason.its supposed to be there.And yeah,he does get in these moods when he'll do things to bother me purposely.it's usually when i end up being right about something his stubborn butt thought the opposite.im just tryn to get some advice on how i deal with this,or how to approach him with it (again) or if anyone knows a good brand of like industrial earplugs?!
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Sun, 03-12-2006 - 11:40pm

I agree with what's been said here. If it's a medical issue, he needs to go to a doctor -- and keep going to doctors until it's resolved.


If it's something he doesn't do when others are around it sounds more like it may be a habit he can control but doesn't bother to control around you. If that's the case, the bottom line is he's he'll stop for others out of courtesy but not you. If that's how he is in the dating stage of the game, you can bet it won't get better if your relationship moves on to the next level.


I think Aisha's last post says it all. If he doesn't see this as a big enough problem to resolve by seeking medical help until it's resolved, he doesn't care too much that it bothers you, and it certainly doesn't bother him and if he doesn't care enough to take care of it, he isn't going to do anything about it, period. That would leave it squarely in your lap, do you want to stay with a guy who does this and doesn't care enough either to resolve it or stop doing it around you, or do you want to move on to find a relationship with someone who's habits aren't disgusting to you and who cares enough about himself and you to resolve issues that are problems in the relationship.


I've got to say, I worked with a guy who snorted like that and I wouldn't have been able to date him for five minutes. It was excruciating just to work with him.







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Mon, 03-13-2006 - 12:37am
ya u know u all are right im just not wanting to face the fact that hes incoinsiderate.And he's so stubborn he'll never see where im comming from.
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Mon, 03-13-2006 - 9:33pm

Just putting it in perspective for you......I also have ongoing sinus issues, which I why I know about the post nasal drip.

When my sinuses flare up, I start to snore - which annoys my DH. When he tells me that I've been snoring, I IMMEDIATELY go and do something about it. Whether it be antibiotics or steriods or whatever...I respect his needs too. Likewise, when my sinuses are inflamed, I frequently get bad breath. Again, I tackle the issue as soon as he makes me aware of it.

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