thanks so much!
I'm sorry but if you're having babies "on purpose" with a guy you're "sort of seeing" then you're an even less responsible parent than he is.
"I'm fine with being a single mother of two"
Then I guess everything worked out.
When you two decided to have a baby was there any thought at that time of whether you would be raising the baby together or whether he was just going to be the sperm donor?
You seem to think I'm "ignorant" but bottom line, there is a reason .women wait for some kind of commitment (whether it be marriage or even just a stable relationship) before they have babies. If you have kids and then expect a relationship, you have no leverage whatsoever. You're doing things ass-backwards. In terms of having a functional family unit, which seems to be what you want, you haven't done things in an order that makes sense. I didn't imply that you aren't a great mom, but it's not "responsible" to yourself and your idea of a "family" to have babies with a man and THEN look at why you don't have a relationship. Are you not willing to take responsibility for that choice?
I didn't suggest you had babies to try to trap him into a relationship, was that someone else...?
If you are fine with being a single mom, then this guy is a sperm donor and I'm not sure why you need advice. Because you don't know how to let go of your feelings for him? I'm not sure what to tell you... Having kids with someone is a bond that lasts forever. For most breakups we'd tell someone to cut contact forever but you can't do that.