So...the vote is in- Hes an Ass
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So...the vote is in- Hes an Ass
| Mon, 06-05-2006 - 10:08am |
I found out that the Ex has already been sleeping with people and going on dates. I know, I know- that is something I should have known he would have done already. I am sure there were girls ready to knock down his door when the word was out that he was completely free. Hes one of those guys who likes to always have girls pawning over him just in case he may need to get laid at a moments notice...gross huh??
Anyway- I called him to ask if he had been 'around the town' yet, just to get it out of the way and begin to hate him the way I am suppost to. At first he was really glad to hear from me, then he never wants to speak to me again- Thats fine with me!! He told me he has definately slept with other people (not one PERSON)- even insinuated he had been since Feb even though he had promised me that he would not because he wanted to work on us these last few months. Well thank god I ended it!!!
I told him I just wanted to see if he was the person I thought he was all along and not the person he thought HE was- He thinks I am sad and pathetic- at first it hurt to hear that, but then I really didn't care what he thought. Hes a slut..a lier and a loser. He told me his life was going great for him right now- and I said it was because I ended things- and he said it was because he was doing good things and not because of my actions- whatever! Things seem good to him because he has girls sleeping with him and he doesn't have to deal with the emotional crap that goes with it. At least the crap that goes with being with him!! He'll end up dating someone who likes to get drunk and screw all the time, seriously- and he will think hes all in love- but it will be shallow.
That is partly why things ended up going sour in the way beginning for us. He wanted to take me out and show me a good time because my brother was in a coma- maybe dying in the hospital- (basically he wanted to feel like prince charming by praying on someone who was going through a really difficult time). So I rolled with it and then when things got better- and I didn''t need a distraction and I wanted to get 'real' with him- he began to dispise me. He hated that I would be away at school getting my degree and made me feel guilty- He hated that I didn't want to go out very much after that, and he hated that I eventually saw him for who he was- an alcholoic 29 year old going no where. At first he started to get his sh*t together to show me he wasn't a loser- went back to school- dropped friends- got a job at an elementry school as a reading tutor. But he always went back to his drinking and acting like he was 21- setting off fire works in the streets late at night when he was drunk- roasting marshmellows in the house on his grill when he was drunk- just being dunb in general. He could never understand why I didn't understand the 'fun' in all that!!
He Sucks! I know I should not have called him to find that out- but helped me to get angry at him for being who he really is, and I needed that- I needed to get the lies out of my head of who he pretended to be. So thats that-
Movin' on.. May have a new job lined up in a new city not too far from home, something I would much rather do than what I am doing- so I am looking towards those types of things to get me through and get me moving on!!
Thanks as always. I think my time with this subject has come to an end- and don't worry- I have already begun to look and talk to some counseling facilities and will work on these issues and more with someone in the near future.
Thanks!! XOXO
Anyway- I called him to ask if he had been 'around the town' yet, just to get it out of the way and begin to hate him the way I am suppost to. At first he was really glad to hear from me, then he never wants to speak to me again- Thats fine with me!! He told me he has definately slept with other people (not one PERSON)- even insinuated he had been since Feb even though he had promised me that he would not because he wanted to work on us these last few months. Well thank god I ended it!!!
I told him I just wanted to see if he was the person I thought he was all along and not the person he thought HE was- He thinks I am sad and pathetic- at first it hurt to hear that, but then I really didn't care what he thought. Hes a slut..a lier and a loser. He told me his life was going great for him right now- and I said it was because I ended things- and he said it was because he was doing good things and not because of my actions- whatever! Things seem good to him because he has girls sleeping with him and he doesn't have to deal with the emotional crap that goes with it. At least the crap that goes with being with him!! He'll end up dating someone who likes to get drunk and screw all the time, seriously- and he will think hes all in love- but it will be shallow.
That is partly why things ended up going sour in the way beginning for us. He wanted to take me out and show me a good time because my brother was in a coma- maybe dying in the hospital- (basically he wanted to feel like prince charming by praying on someone who was going through a really difficult time). So I rolled with it and then when things got better- and I didn''t need a distraction and I wanted to get 'real' with him- he began to dispise me. He hated that I would be away at school getting my degree and made me feel guilty- He hated that I didn't want to go out very much after that, and he hated that I eventually saw him for who he was- an alcholoic 29 year old going no where. At first he started to get his sh*t together to show me he wasn't a loser- went back to school- dropped friends- got a job at an elementry school as a reading tutor. But he always went back to his drinking and acting like he was 21- setting off fire works in the streets late at night when he was drunk- roasting marshmellows in the house on his grill when he was drunk- just being dunb in general. He could never understand why I didn't understand the 'fun' in all that!!
He Sucks! I know I should not have called him to find that out- but helped me to get angry at him for being who he really is, and I needed that- I needed to get the lies out of my head of who he pretended to be. So thats that-
Movin' on.. May have a new job lined up in a new city not too far from home, something I would much rather do than what I am doing- so I am looking towards those types of things to get me through and get me moving on!!
Thanks as always. I think my time with this subject has come to an end- and don't worry- I have already begun to look and talk to some counseling facilities and will work on these issues and more with someone in the near future.
Thanks!! XOXO

For those who aren't familiar with Cgsbeau's situation, you can find her previous posts here:
What do you all think of this??
I ended it!!
Remember me...having hard time!!
I'm at work and won't be able to get back to you until after, but wanted to to post your previous links to help anyone who's not familiar.
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
Cgsbeau, I know you were angry when you posted this, but it sounds like you've known for a loong time that he wasn't what you wanted or needed. You knew he had alcohol problem (or at least was heading down the path to them), you knew he was immature and only interested in shallow, surface relationships. Shoot, perfect for him is no real relationship, just a long string of girls at the ready for whenever he wants to choose one of them. Lesson learned. You need to pay attention when people are saying or doing things that clearly tell you who they are. He was loud and clear, though it wasn't what you wanted to hear.
Those things he's saying now about how much better his life is without you? I'm not saying he's pining away, but I will say he's only saying those things to hurt you -- and it worked. Don't pay attention to what he said, if you were that much trouble to him, he'd have dumped you flat long ago; why would he have hung around if he has so many others just waiting to fulfill his every need? Bottom line is he's an immature jerk. A 30-year old that acts like an 18-year old, and if he hasn't progressed by now, it's a pretty good bet he's not going to.
I'm glad this caused you to sever the last of your hopes and move on. This was not what you want in a relationship. A new job in a new town sounds really great, exciting, interesting, something to focus on. Hopefully it's close enough that you can still stay in close contact with your friends. I don't have to tell you I'm glad you're looking into counseling. I know it's a tough step to make, and I'm sure it won't always be fun or easy, but oh my, it'll be sooooo good, you'll wish you'd done it long ago!
Thanks for checking in ~ I'll keep my fingers crossed on that new job possibility!
~ cl-2nd_life"Experience is what you get
when you don't get what you want."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"