Stale relationship, help

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-03-2011
Stale relationship, help
Wed, 08-03-2011 - 8:42pm

My husband and I have been together for more than 7 years now and have a 2 year old daughter. We both are very much in love with each other. However, for awhile now, our relationship has become some what stale. We are both very busy people. We both take care of our daughter, and have demanding jobs and other activities/commitments. So often times, he will forget anniversaries or periodic dates or even flowers. Honestly, sometimes it makes me unhappy. However, I can't always blame him. Often times we, both, will say we should go on a date however, by the end of the week, being so busy, we will forget about it. Can people relate and what have you done to solve it?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 08-03-2011 - 9:00pm

I think you have to make an effort to make your relationship a priority.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-02-2011
Wed, 08-03-2011 - 9:46pm
I'm not married to my boyfriend but we've been together now for almost 5 years & have lived together for 4. I can relate to having some time in & it causing a little bit of a slip in the intimacy department because we've both become so wrapped up in our seperate lives with work & such that we kind of stopped making the effort to do exciting things like we used to in the beginning of our relationship. We don't have any kids so I can't relate to that but I'm sure it def. makes it more difficult. I figure that we both just need to make a more active effort to do something spontaneous, even if we're tired & feel exhausted. I found out that even the littlest things can sometimes make some good chemistry. For instance, instead of going to bed at 10 o'clock like I have been lately (due to a new puppy), I've waited for him to get home from work (he works til 11 usually) to stay up with him for a little. Even though it sometimes sucks to get a little less sleep, I have seen that it has made him a little happier because we are spending some time together. Just this little change has helped make a small improvement so I think it's all about finding something you can change up once in a while to keep him on his toes.
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Registered: 05-14-2001
Thu, 08-04-2011 - 12:58am

Welcome to the board, Emptyonline ~

Your relationship has to be a priority.

~ cl-2nd_life