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|Mon, 10-25-2010 - 9:30am|
dh (we're not really married yet, but we've planned on it since i graduated high school) claims that i've been more standoffish lately. honestly, i haven't noticed. i know i get an agressive tone going on when i feel that he is being standoffish, but he claims that he had his "normal tone"
is now a good time to mention that i have a mild diagnoses of asperger's? i really suck at reading people's body language or tones, and i always say or do the wrong thing.
he's always asking me "what's the problem" but i never know. he doesn't take that for an answer, like everyone else he claims "you know, you're just playing stupid" and that really hurts. not only does it bother me that he's telling me what goes on in my head (what does he know anyway? HE doesn't have to live in here!) but he knows that my mother raised me on a diet of "Arica, you're an idiot. you have such a high IQ but you are SO STUPID!" so it really hurts my feelings when someone disses my intellect.
not to mention he gets grumpy if i don't let him have his way. (of course i do the same thing, so i guess we're even) he gets all huffy if i kick him away from my side of the bed and make him sleep on his side of the bed. (need i mention that i get cranky if anything wakes me up? and he does, sometimes when he touches me.)
then onto the mismatched libidos. i know it's the wrong board, but we're arguing all the time about that lately. i say "go" he says "no" but when he says "go" and i say "no" he throws a hissy fit claiming that he always gives into my demands and that he deserves the same respect. this is, usually, AFTER he reminds me that "it's up to you. its your body."
of course, this is the man who can outstubborn me. i really respect a person with at least a little bit of stubbornness, because it shows a strength of character i think.
but when we butt heads, we REALLY butt heads. take, for instnce, out "great adoption debate" i say "go" he says "NO!" we've got two entirely different opinions on it, and it's so interesting how two people with so many similarities can have such strong, but diverse opinions.