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| Wed, 06-21-2006 - 2:16pm |
Hi,
My bf asked me to come over his house to watch the game Sunday. When it was time for me to go over to his house, I called to let him know I was on my way and he didn't answer the phone anymore the entire night. I still haven't heard from him and today is Wednesday.
I had spent the night over his house Saturday and hung out with him all day Sunday til about 5:00pm. Also, we took a nap together. He woke up before me and when I opened my eyes, he was looking at me with the meanest, most disgusted look on his face. As soon as I opened my eyes, he quickly turned his head and looked the other way, pretending like he wasn't staring. I asked him why he was looking at me in that way and his answer was, "no reason". Everything was fine before we took the nap. I don't remember farting or burping in my sleep but I know that I'm a light snorer. Maybe I'm an ugly sleeper. He even kissed me goodbye and walked me to my car when I left as if everything was okay and I haven't heard from him since. He was at my house last weekend 3 days in a row. Do you think I wore out my welcome or did I do something in my sleep to turn him off?
My bf asked me to come over his house to watch the game Sunday. When it was time for me to go over to his house, I called to let him know I was on my way and he didn't answer the phone anymore the entire night. I still haven't heard from him and today is Wednesday.
I had spent the night over his house Saturday and hung out with him all day Sunday til about 5:00pm. Also, we took a nap together. He woke up before me and when I opened my eyes, he was looking at me with the meanest, most disgusted look on his face. As soon as I opened my eyes, he quickly turned his head and looked the other way, pretending like he wasn't staring. I asked him why he was looking at me in that way and his answer was, "no reason". Everything was fine before we took the nap. I don't remember farting or burping in my sleep but I know that I'm a light snorer. Maybe I'm an ugly sleeper. He even kissed me goodbye and walked me to my car when I left as if everything was okay and I haven't heard from him since. He was at my house last weekend 3 days in a row. Do you think I wore out my welcome or did I do something in my sleep to turn him off?

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Are you sure you read the look right. People just waking up can have all kinds of looks and think they see all kinds of things. The disappearing act means he is pulling away, I seriously doubt it was anything you did in your sleep, and likely isn't anything you did at all.....more likely his issues.
That said, if you did read him right, I think you should get the hell away from this guy. He must have some weird suppresed rage against you or women in general (which he is apparently not capable of exspressing to you in a constructive way). I would not want to be sleeping near someone that that looked at me like they hated me. I would be worried the next time I might wake up with their fingers around my neck, or maybe not at all. Either he stops acting like a wacko or you should not be putting yourself in vulnerable positions with him.
How well do you know this guy?
P.
Welcome back,
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
Judging from your previous post, this is business as usual for him and you keep making yourself available to him.
Peace,
Di
***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***
I think the way I looked when I was sleeping had something to do with his expression. It's funny to me that he would turn his head and look away after I opened my eyes.
I get the feeling you are implying that maybe it was a look of love or he was enamored with you or something...is that it?
Peace,
Di
***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***
Personally, I don't think it was something you did in your sleep. I think it was YOU. If a guy is really into a girl, he looks at her as much as he can and gets all googly-eyed when he does. Perhaps he has negative feelings about you so staring at you caused that look of disgust you described without him realizing it.
Based on previous posts and this post, it sounds like you're dealing with one majorly confused guy or someone that just wants a FWB.
I just read my old thread and I feel like such an idiot. The signs were all there from the beginning. He was just looking for a jump-off. Truth is, I haven't done anything on my so-called "list of things to do". Clawd, ham mercy! I've been played like a game of Pac-Man at the Laundromat! You know what, this hurts. I have not spoken with him yet today and I can't wait to let him have it. Do you think I should call him or wait until he calls me?
By the way, Thank you so much for all of your help. I've been close to his immediate family for 11 years. They think we are the perfect couple and would be disappointed if things didn't work out. They were all at my house for Memorial Day. I guess some things are just not meant to be.
I'm a little confused, you say "I have not spoken with him yet today and I can't wait to let him have it." like you know you're going to talk to him; how can you think that way when he's not contacted you in three days?
If you want to "let him have it, then you calling him would probably be best -- you'd be ready to say what you want to say. I have to say I'm surprised that you want to let him have it though, your posts indicate that you've been hesitant to really talk with him. If you don't want to "let him have it", you can just not call him. If/when he finally does call you can just tell him you have no interest in being with someone who disappears and reappears whenever they want and since that's the case, you're not interested in continuing a relationship with him.
Being dropped cold with no explanation is rude, disrespectful and either says a mouthful about how important you are to him or it says he's completely without the ability to treat others appropriately, but since you've said he takes great care of his mother, I'd say that's not it. On a side note, the fact that he treats his mother well doesn't mean a thing, he's not treating you well, and that's what matters in a relationship. IMO, a guy who'd treat his girlfriend like that isn't worth the effort. You should be treated well, not dumped, ignored and avoided. Sorry.
~ cl-2nd_life"Experience is what you get
when you don't get what you want."
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"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
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