stubborn BF won't shower at night
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| Mon, 08-14-2006 - 11:24am |
I'm having a huge problem at home. It's summer and my bf rides his bike to and from work. He's really sweaty when he comes home from work. He removes his sweaty clothes and lets him self dry from the ride home. I've asked him to shower before he comes to bed, but he refuses or the lies and tells me he rinsed off before he comes to bed. When he initially refused my request to shower I was almost speechless. He will shower in the mornings though.
I've relocated to our spare bedroom to sleep. I don't want to sleep next to someone who won't shower after being drenched in sweat and I don't care if it's dryed. He's still sticky and the sweat becomes funky. And it's also a matter of respect. It's the least you can do for the person you are sleeping inches from.
I've been in a relationship with this person for sometime and I think I ask little of this person. I think I'm pretty reasonable, actually. I"m not highly demanding, so when I ask for something I really want it to happen. This stubborness he's displaying is really turning me off.

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You've stated your desire-- him showering the sweat off-- and then you did something to enforce that boundary you have. You moved bedrooms. Congrats. That's about all you can do. Now it's up to him to decide which is more important, never getting any, sleeping alone, and potentially losing you or showering quickly to remove the funky sweat smell.
But, there is nothing more you can do.
Jen
I had this same issue at home with my husband! :)
LOL Kimbirdy,
You're story is great. Just goes to show that husbands can be just like kids, a little positive reinforcement can go a long way. :-)
kimbirdy,
Speaking of training, one night DH and I were lying in bed watching TV.
Defleppardgal
That's too funny!
kimbirdy,
Yeah, it was Jeff Foxworthly.
Defleppardgal
Have you asked your boyfriend why he refuses? If so, what does he say? Is this your place, his or a shared residence?
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when you don't get what you want."
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does not change the facts"
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