Surprise break-up after a year
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|Sun, 08-05-2012 - 7:41pm|
Need some serious help and support. My boyfriend and I just hit a year together, a great year. We are super compatible, never fought, spent time with my family, took vacations together, etc., a great relationship until...until his best friend moved back to town and their other friend just separated from his wife.
I honestly did not see this coming. We went out last Tuesday and everything was as good as always, he cuddles me all night and nothing was different. He had a guys night on Friday, as well as the previous Friday and Saturday, so I commented yesterday morning that I felt un-important, tired of being by myself due to him hanging with his buddies every weekend. He said he was planning on coming over that (last) night, I said I might have plans since we didn't really make any for the weekend. I sent him a text later and told him I wasn't going out, but I never heard back.
I called him around 4:30, no answer, then again around 6:30, no answer, but he called right back. He said he wasn't coming over, in fact we have come to a place in our relationship where we want different things. Funny thing is, we have never discussed what each other wants?
I am torn up inside, I hurt all over. I honestly never saw this coming. He said he had been having thoughts of breaking up. I asked when he started having this thought and he said a couple of weeks, since I mentioned we had been together almost a year, another funny thing is, I never mentioned it, he did. I met some of his neighbors and one asked how long we had been together, he answered, almost a year.
Now, I will totally admit I want, hope, we get back together, that he is just kinda freaking out that we have been together for a year and it is time to start thinking about the future. Thinking he is not ready; starting a new job and is wanting to hang with his buds since they have had different lives for the past couple of years. He didn't mention a "break", I almost did, but didn't. I said, "so you are okay never seeing me again?" His reply was "well I wouldn't say that". I don't really remember much after that, but I hung up within 20 seconds of that comment.
I really do love him, and I know, at least he said so, that he loves me. I have of course been thinking about things all day, between sobbing, trying to cope and figure out why. I have not contacted him, which has been hard. I thought about texting him good luck on Tuesday for his new teaching job or calling to wish him happy birthday next Sunday.
If anyone has been through a similar situation, please help a broken hearted sister out.