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| Mon, 01-16-2006 - 1:33pm |
Thank you to everyone who took the time to respond to my post. You are all very sweet and it was nice to feel so supported. With that said, I definetely have a better idea of how I need to handle my situation. I'll be sure to let you all know how it goes and I really hope I can help some of you out in the future!
Thanks again and Happy Martin Luther King, Jr. day!! Hopefully you guys got a holiday too.
Thanks again and Happy Martin Luther King, Jr. day!! Hopefully you guys got a holiday too.

A few things I'd like to point out that I didn't see posted in your responses is that communication is imperative to a good relationship, you aren't a mind reader and neither are any of the rest of us, in order to understand and be understood, you must be able to discuss this with your partner. If his silent treatment punishment bothers you now, imagine how you'd feel being married for the rest of your life to someone who does this to you. Hell comes to mind.... You cite that he's been there for you, through a death and a car accident as though these are reasons to stick it out. I suggest to you that any boyfriend you had at the time those incidents occurred would have done the same -0 been there with you and helped you through them. It's great that he was there for you, but that doesn't at all indicate that he's "the right one" or that you should attach yourself to him forever because of it. I'd also like to point out that what defines a relationship that is right is when your partner doesn't have to change a thing in order to be acceptable to you. Obviously, that isn't the case in your situation. Good relationships aren't about finding a partner then going about changing them into what you really want, it's about finding the person who's right as they are. If they aren't okay as they are it simply means that while much might be right about that person, they're aren't the right person for you. We aren't Play-Doh, we don't reshape to what someone else wants us to be. You have every right to have your drinks as often or as infrequently as you like, there is nothing wrong with it. His choices are clear: accept you as you are of move on. Quite frankly, moving on would be the very best thing, while your relationship may have a lot of great things about it, the things that are wrong are very, very serious. I'm really hoping you'll move on from this relationship and I know that if you do years from now you'll look back at this relationship and be very grateful you ended it, if you stay, you'll look back years from now and wish you had.
Congrats on your accomplishments, you should be very proud.
~ cl-2nd_life"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"