Trouble on the home front -- off topic

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Registered: 05-14-2001
Trouble on the home front -- off topic
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Fri, 10-21-2011 - 4:08am

My daughter was diagnosed with anorexia last week.


~ cl-2nd_life

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Registered: 09-17-2005
Fri, 10-21-2011 - 10:11am
I don't have much to offer except that if her coaches and trainers are aware of the situation, she will not be left entirely to "fend for herself". So hopefully she will not revert straight back as soon as you leave. She knows she won't be able to run if her doctor does not give her the OK so she has a motivation to do better.

I went through a period where I lost a lot of weight (I was down to about 80lbs - though I'm short, this was still severely underweight) - right around the same time of my life as your daughter - but for different reasons. I didn't realize it at the time but I was driving my mom crazy with worry. I eventually started gaining weight after about 2 years.
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Registered: 05-18-2009
Fri, 10-21-2011 - 10:42am

I'm really sorry. This must be so heartbreaking for you.

If I can speak for myself a bit.. I have suffered from, and still feel the effects of, an eating disorder. I have been in therapy for it specifically for about a year and a half now. From our perspective: We know it's "stupid". We know all the facts about anorexia/bulemia from middle school health classes, so we don't need it rubbed in our faces. Eating disorders are formed under extremely complex psychological conditions... There is no one on earth who understands an ED except those who have suffered from it themselves. It is very difficult for an "outsider" to "get it", because the solution seems simple. You are wise enough to know that it is not simple... That you cannot fix her by force or by logic.

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Fri, 10-21-2011 - 5:19pm

I don't have any experience or advice.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Fri, 10-21-2011 - 5:33pm

oh; 2nd life.

I am sending a big hug to you...

You are our angel here and have helped so many.. I truly hope that you can find some peace in this..

I dont have any experience with anorexia but as a

Community Leader
Registered: 05-14-2001
Sun, 10-23-2011 - 4:09am

Thanks, UKgirl.


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cl-2nd_
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Registered: 05-14-2001
Sun, 10-23-2011 - 4:59am

Thanks very much for sharing, Crab, and I'm sorry you've struggled through and ED too.


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Registered: 05-14-2001
Sun, 10-23-2011 - 5:03am

Thanks Blue, you're sweet


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cl-2nd_
Community Leader
Registered: 05-14-2001
Sun, 10-23-2011 - 5:38am

Thanks, Free


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Registered: 09-17-2005
Sun, 10-23-2011 - 7:17am
"I don't think waiting two years will be an option for her."

I'm not saying you should wait two years - I'm just warning that even with help and support, it may take years before she starts gaining weight. Like UUC detailed, it's something that she'll probably deal with for the rest of her life. And like you say about the coach, there is no bandaid fix for this. What's good is that she's acknowledged that it's a problem which needs to be resolved - that's the first step... at least she is not in denial and refusing to admit there's a problem.
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Registered: 12-27-2004
Sun, 10-23-2011 - 10:05am

2nd_life, I am so sorry you and your family are having to deal with this issue.

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