Trouble in Paradise...

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Registered: 04-26-2005
Trouble in Paradise...
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Fri, 05-19-2006 - 5:33pm
Hello,
I'm wondering if anyone has some advice to give me. . . I need it badly. My husband and I got married very young, not that we're not STILL young. . . but definetely too young for most at the time we married. We kind of jumped into it because he was goign to be sent to Iraq. Long story short, here we are almost 2 years later and I'm starting to break down because of how unhappy I am. Our plan was to move out of state in August of this year, but with the way I'm feeling and the feedback I've gotten from others I'm not so sure if I will go. I don't want to say that this has been going on since day one, but it also isn't the most sudden thing to happen either. It feels like he has changed into a unsocialable, grumpy and lazy old man who focuses his whole life on work and has even become selfish and insecure-which he never used to be. I'm not sure if moving out of state (to his home town) is the best thing for me. I don't think I can deal with it much longer...but we're married so I feel like I have to give it a try. What should I do?

 

bellyblinkie

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 05-19-2006 - 8:43pm

Hi jsev2005,


It's hard to offer advice when I'm not quite sure the dynamics of your marriage.

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Fri, 05-19-2006 - 8:50pm
Have you and your husband had a clear and specific discussion of your unhappiness? If so, what was his response?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-19-2006 - 11:41pm

Welcome to the board, Jsev2005 ~


I agree with Kim, it's not possible to answer you post without knowing more specific information. Kim and Geo asked all but one of the questions I was going to ask, here's mine: Has he made a drastic change from the guy he used to be or has he always been like this to some extent? I'll just second all Kim and Geo's questions and be checking back for your reply.







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