Trouble In paradise....
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|Sun, 03-09-2014 - 8:05pm|
To put in brief, my partner and I have been together for nearly 6 months, I have known him a long time and I have always found him attractive and wanted us to be more than just friends. However.... I had a serious relationship with one of his friends when I was younger, it was a very intense relationship and we were literally inseperable, we ended due to our differences and discovering he had cheated on me with another girl. Once we split we were on and off constantly for years, he constantly played mind games with me and lead me to believe I was the only girl for him, I even resulted to leaving current boyfriends in the hope he would commit back to me, he claimed he loved me and wanted no one else but me, this then lead to me finding out he had been sleeping with various other women whilst playing mind games with me. This made me hate him and we had not spoken for a long long time. When I got with my partner who I love to bits, and who I know loves me in return, the ex was vile and horrible towards me calling me every name under the sun... the texting began with him simply stating "we need to get on now you're dating one of my good friends, hope we can be civil"... to then name calling and bad language. I told my partner who then was highly upset and annoyed as he understands my past with the ex, he told his mate/my ex that he no longer wanted to be on talking terms with him as this was affecting mine and his relationship. I felt slightly bad as I knew they were friends but he confided in me and stated he did not want anything to come inbetween us.
A few weeks passed and the ex popped his head up yet again and decided to screen shot a picture of me and my partner,slightly creepy, again my boyfriend questioned why he had done it and he stated it was a mistake. I highly doubted that was the case. Since then he as been asked to go out with him and the lads on nights out etc... and my partner has decided to get on with him for 'the sake of the lads' this has highly upset me as it has made me look like a complete fool as he made it perfectly clear he did not want anything to do with him as the ex has resulted me to tears and was that cruel towards me. I understand he is his mate and has known him a long time, but the past and the things he has put me through and the lies that he tells and the way he can manipulate people worries me and I do not want him coming in between me and my partner.
I suppose I just feel a bit like i'm coming second best since during the big argument with the ex when he found out I was with my partner he stated "well he would always pick the lads over you... you really think he respects you more than us?" and literally laughed in my face.... therefore I am a bit stuck and need some advice, I love my partner, I would never leave him cause we get on so well and work great as a couple, but what do I do about the troublesome ex, do I let him get on with him for the sake of his group of friends or so I make a stand??? Help please :( x