Trying to sell relocating to my partner

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Registered: 11-02-2010
Trying to sell relocating to my partner
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Tue, 11-02-2010 - 3:14pm
Hi All,
I am looking for some advice on a bit of a complicated subject so I think it's best if I start from the beginning.
I originally grew up in a lovely picturesque town near Oxford, UK.Six years ago I left to start university in Preston in the North West of the UK (about a 3 and a half hour drive) which is where I met my partner.He is from the area and when I finished University in 2007 we decided we wanted to live together and as I had enjoyed university and had essentially already made the leap moving away from home,we started renting in the area.
Within weeks I was struggling as all the friends I had made left the area to go home and I found myself in a job that I don't like that doesn't pay well, just to be able to afford to live.
I have spent the past 3 years searching for other work but have so far failed and after bouts of depression and loneliness I have not been able settle here, have made no friends and spend all my time at work or sat at home.
After a recent holiday with my family and the birth of my nephew I really want to be back with my family.
My partner has just qualified as a teacher and so we have the luxury that his job can go anywhere in the country,but I need to sell a relocation to him.
We would have to be on a tighter budget,the rent would cost more. I think I could earn more and as I want a career in science, there are more science jobs within 10 miles of Oxford compared to 10 miles of where I currently live. The move would however mean he would have to move away from his friends and family
We could move September at the earliest so at that point I will have been here 4 years and so sometimes I think it is fair to live where I want to for 4 years as we will have spent the last 4 years living where he wanted.
I know he is worried if we moved there we would never move back but I know if we are here we will never move down there and when it comes to me having a family I really want to be close to my mum.
I know this is a long one and I prob come across as selfish wanting to move closer to home but I think a new start would be great.
I just want some ideas and thoughts as I don't want him to force him to move as he would resent me but I want to sell him the idea and make him want to give it a try.
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Registered: 07-29-2002
Tue, 11-02-2010 - 10:17pm

How serious are you about your BF?

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Registered: 06-24-2008
Tue, 11-02-2010 - 11:03pm

If you don't want to force him, then don't worry so much about his decision making process.

"The key to good decision making is not knowledge. It is understanding."
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Registered: 05-14-2001
Wed, 11-03-2010 - 2:55am

Welcome to the board, Frizz2kuk ~

I don't see anything selfish or wrong with you wanting to move the both of you back to your home.


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