Viva Las Vegas

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Registered: 07-19-2006
Viva Las Vegas
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Wed, 07-19-2006 - 2:28pm
OK heres the deal, my boss pays for a trip to Vegas for me and my girlfriends/coworkers for Administrative Porfessionals/Secretery's day in May. I am 30 and the others are 40 & 50. We do cut loose and party the weekend away, but nothing over the top or inappropriate. We have the option to go again in October (because my boss got a good air miles deal and offered it to us. I don't feel this should be a big deal, butmy husband is very needy and possesive. I have given him no reason to act like this. I can't control how he feels we have been married for 12 years. I just want to ask all you reading this what your opinion is should I go. He doesn't know yet. So please help

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Thu, 07-20-2006 - 3:00pm

If you don't know his reasons then talking to him is in order.

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Registered: 05-14-2006
Thu, 07-20-2006 - 3:27pm

So this must be some kind of bonus program he has right. 5 employees a couple times per year....airfare (assume $350 round trip --- although some maybe come out of freq flyer miles, so not actual out of pocket) plus three nights in hotel (assume $600.00) x 2 times per year = about 2 grand to you (anything else he is paying for?) and 10 grand to him for all 5 of you. Easily doable for a successful lawyer and a nice perk for his hard working employees (beats the annual thanksgiving turkey).

Sounds LESS suspicious to me than before. Is this a common perk for employees of small law firms in your area? I withdraw (legal term for you) 50% of my skepticism on this as a gift. Still isn't the main issue in this thread as far as I am concerned but I admit I might have jumped the gun on this aspect.

BTW I assume you are showing this as income on your W-2 if not you better hope he and his tax accountant don't get audited by the IRS....cause depending on how he logs it he could be getting in trouble and you could be gettng a tax bill since this is not a business expense (remember the guy from TYCO that had the big Italian Bday party for his wife with coporate money?).

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 07-20-2006 - 6:32pm

I don't recall the OP saying she was going to hook up or that the 2 women she was going with were going to hook up. The three of them are married. They shop, see some shows, gamble...

I'm not arguing that Vegas is a good place or that it isn't. I'm arguing that the OP does not seem to want to cheat and does not seem to be looking for any of that. She's going somewhere with a couple of coworkers. Sure, there are a lot of other places they could pick. Maybe something different would even be fun. But if she is wanting to hook-up, she can do it wherever she goes. And if her H is worried about her hooking up, it's not going to matter where she goes, he's going to be worried about it. Deal with the why's of it all, not the where...

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Registered: 05-14-2006
Thu, 07-20-2006 - 7:49pm

Sure they are married and who do you think the commercial about cheating while pretending you are somebody else is for??? She did not talk about shopping and seeing shows in her first post she said....

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The where is important cause it is important to him and therefore important to the relationship --- one that she herself admits has issues. Her doing it depite his strong objection is the key point here (she is putting her desire to be part of this group activity ahead of his feelings and he will get that message loud and clear).

Seriously if this was the opposite, and she was posting saying that their marriage was troubled and he keeps going to Vegas with co workers to "cut loose and party" and even though he says "nothing over the top happens," she has told him that she is really against him going there, but he goes anyways knowing it upsets her and he keeps saying it is only fair cause she goes to NYC once a year to see a show with her girlfriends. And to make it even worse she just cries miserably every time one of those commercials comes on the tv while he is gone. Would you be telling her that it is OK for him to ignore her feelings and just go?

To me his strong feelings on this in light of their relationship outweighs a third "party all weekend outing with her girlfriends" assuming she really does care about hte relationship.

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Registered: 03-30-2006
Fri, 07-21-2006 - 1:59pm
If your boss has so many air miles, has he thought of inviting the S/O to go along with you women? Just curious. I can understand it being a womens thing if given for secretary's day, but for just no reason at all how about a couples trip? I know that for me, I'd have much more fun if my D/H was along than I would just with the girls. Then again, I'm not really one to go do much without him. He's my best friend and if I only get one or two vacations a year (usually one), I want it to be with him.

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