We are pregnant but does she love me?

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Registered: 02-05-2011
We are pregnant but does she love me?
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Wed, 02-23-2011 - 10:11am
I have been dating a woman for 2 1/2 months now.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009
Wed, 02-23-2011 - 10:33am

There is no rule for how all pregnant women act. A man trying to understand the brain of a pregnant woman will never get anywhere... So instead of trying to understand, try to BE understanding.

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Registered: 12-03-2009
Wed, 02-23-2011 - 11:08am
Do you know for sure she is keeping the baby, could she be considering getting an abortion ? If that's the case, this is probably why she keeps minimal contact with you, knowing fully well - I assume you told her ? - that you want very much this child.

But since we're not her, with what you told us, we can only assume what's going on - nobody knows really but her. What I would do if I were you is to respect her wishes for time and space, but only after making sure she understands you are doing so at her request, not because you are trying to escape or hide, and that you will be there when she's ready to talk to you.
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Registered: 09-06-2007
Wed, 02-23-2011 - 11:41am

My sister and her boyfried got pregant after dating just 3 MONTHS.

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Registered: 05-14-2001
Wed, 02-23-2011 - 11:37pm
Welcome to the board Aaronfrench31 ~


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cl-2nd_
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Registered: 12-22-2007
Thu, 02-24-2011 - 12:41am

No contraception was used and she's shocked that she's pregnant?

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Registered: 05-14-2001
Thu, 02-24-2011 - 12:52am


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cl-2nd_
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Registered: 02-05-2011
Thu, 02-24-2011 - 5:00pm
Thank You to all of those who gave input on my situation. It turns out that I was being a little selfish trying to pressure her to spend more time with me. So I have been giving her space, and it seems to be helping. We both want this to work so we plan to take every logical step (from here at least) to encourage the growth of our relationship.
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Registered: 05-14-2001
Thu, 02-24-2011 - 8:44pm

I wouldn't say you're selfish, I'd say this is the first of many differences/ preferences you'll be finding about each other.

I wish you the best of luck.


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cl-2nd_
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Registered: 05-18-2009
Mon, 02-28-2011 - 6:46pm

You know, the title of this thread pops up every time I visit the board so maybe I've been subconsciously thinking of it... But is there anyone else here who is CREEPED OUT by the OP??

He is "ready for a family" with a woman he barely knows... He uses the phrase "we're pregnant"... Though he doesn't even mention if the person who is actually pregnant even wants to keep the baby... He doesn't use any contraception (not that he's fully responsible for this)... He thinks he's in love with this person and can't understand why she's distancing herself...

I don't believe that only women can entrap someone with a pregnancy. If they were using contraception (and of course it's worse that they aren't), I would seriously wonder if he had poked holes in the condoms. I'd like to think of the OP as a good guy who just made a mistake, but I think he is going way overboard with neediness and wanting to be a father, and my "common sense/self preservation" alarm bells are ringing LOUDLY. I understand the opposite end of the spectrum is "deadbeat dad" and that might be worse. But, I would be very disturbed if the guy I'd been dating only TWO MONTHS was so thrilled to be a parent with me and couldn't comprehend if I was feeling distant or confused. I hope I'm wrong. This one just doesn't sit right with me and I had to mention it.

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Registered: 05-14-2001
Tue, 03-01-2011 - 2:50am

I agree with you Crab, from being thrilled with the pregnancy, wondering if she loves him (after 7 weeks?) and all, alarm bells should be ringing very loudly.


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