There is no rule for how all pregnant women act. A man trying to understand the brain of a pregnant woman will never get anywhere... So instead of trying to understand, try to BE understanding.
My sister and her boyfried got pregant after dating just 3 MONTHS.
No contraception was used and she's shocked that she's pregnant?
I wouldn't say you're selfish, I'd say this is the first of many differences/ preferences you'll be finding about each other.
I wish you the best of luck.
You know, the title of this thread pops up every time I visit the board so maybe I've been subconsciously thinking of it... But is there anyone else here who is CREEPED OUT by the OP??
He is "ready for a family" with a woman he barely knows... He uses the phrase "we're pregnant"... Though he doesn't even mention if the person who is actually pregnant even wants to keep the baby... He doesn't use any contraception (not that he's fully responsible for this)... He thinks he's in love with this person and can't understand why she's distancing herself...
I don't believe that only women can entrap someone with a pregnancy. If they were using contraception (and of course it's worse that they aren't), I would seriously wonder if he had poked holes in the condoms. I'd like to think of the OP as a good guy who just made a mistake, but I think he is going way overboard with neediness and wanting to be a father, and my "common sense/self preservation" alarm bells are ringing LOUDLY. I understand the opposite end of the spectrum is "deadbeat dad" and that might be worse. But, I would be very disturbed if the guy I'd been dating only TWO MONTHS was so thrilled to be a parent with me and couldn't comprehend if I was feeling distant or confused. I hope I'm wrong. This one just doesn't sit right with me and I had to mention it.
I agree with you Crab, from being thrilled with the pregnancy, wondering if she loves him (after 7 weeks?) and all, alarm bells should be ringing very loudly.