We had the talk
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We had the talk
| Thu, 02-09-2006 - 10:51am |
Okay, so first off thank you so much to everyone who offered help to me.
And I just wanted to let you know that we had the talk.
He still has not said when he thinks he will be ready to get married, which I am okay with. We did make a huge decision though. When our roomates leave in a few months, he and I will no longer live together unless we are comitted. My daughter called him Daddy all weekend long and it drove the point home for me that we needed to do something for her sake. I presented him two options, living together and dealing with whatever happens with my daughter, or not living together unless we are committed to each other. He chose the latter, so that's what we're doing.
I feel like it is the right choice, but I am still hurt that he's not in the same place that I am. But I can deal with that.
I just wanted to keep everyone up to date.
Thank you again!
And I just wanted to let you know that we had the talk.
He still has not said when he thinks he will be ready to get married, which I am okay with. We did make a huge decision though. When our roomates leave in a few months, he and I will no longer live together unless we are comitted. My daughter called him Daddy all weekend long and it drove the point home for me that we needed to do something for her sake. I presented him two options, living together and dealing with whatever happens with my daughter, or not living together unless we are committed to each other. He chose the latter, so that's what we're doing.
I feel like it is the right choice, but I am still hurt that he's not in the same place that I am. But I can deal with that.
I just wanted to keep everyone up to date.
Thank you again!

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Hugs to you LayLam...
But..until you make a decision and stick with it...you have what you have...."relationship limbo".
I will say it again....You are in love with a man who has relationship issues....period. Not just marriage, but relationship issues.
Peace,
Di
***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***
I know he has relationship issues, which I have always said I would stear away from, but it's a lot harder than I thought it would be. Maybe because I was alone for so long, I'm having a harder time letting it go than I should. And if it was just me, I don't think it would be this hard, but worrying about my daughter is killing me.
I hate the limbo of it all, that's an excellent way to refer to it. And it seems like he doesn't really mind it. I know a lot of my friends think it's an age thing, but it's not like we're 16, we're grown ups now. So I don't think it's a big deal to want some form of timeline. Even if he said two years, at least I would know. My brother thinks seeing other people may be a bad idea, that it might end everything with BF, which I don't neccessarily want. So I don't know if I should bring it up, or just end it and see what happens. Any ideas?
Okay but remember you asked.
Peace,
Di
***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***
Thank you so much!
Godspeed to you LayLam...
I know this isn't easy.
Peace,
Di
***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***
I know this is incredibly hard and not at all what you want to happen. It sucks when reality gets in the way.
~ cl-2nd_life"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
Not if it meant I had to have the same conversation with you all over again.
Peace,
Di
***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
Two weeks ago, he turned down a job offer, made his decision and then when he was crying about it later, I listened to him and held him while he was upset, knowing there was nothing I could do about it. I just would like the same from him. He can't change the way he feels, but he could at least acknowledge that I'm upset and try and comfort me.
We've been friends for awhile, maybe that's why it bothers me more, that he can't be a friend now.
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