What Am I supposed to do?

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Registered: 01-18-2006
What Am I supposed to do?
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Wed, 01-18-2006 - 7:36pm
Hey everybody. I have to ask....what am i supposed to do about my boyfriend? He doesn't pay attention to me half the time and he is always saying he'll come see me, but never does. It's not like it's far. We live 5 minutes away from each other. He is always talking about one of my best friends. He really likes her and has for a while. I don't want to argue with him, because i really love him and don't want to lose him. Sometimes he calls just to say he loves me, and talks about what he's going to do when i move away. And he's really sweet, but other times he is a complete a$$hole and doesn't say a word except that he has nothing better to do than talk to me on the damn phone. I really have no clue how to make him see that i do love him and how i'm feeling. I can't ask his friends to talk to him, because not a lot of people know we're together because of some people who like to start s**t with me about it! What the hell am i going to do?
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Registered: 10-13-2004
Wed, 01-18-2006 - 11:52pm
Hon, how old are you? (it will make a difference to my answer)
Dress Up Games, Doll Makers and Cartoon Dolls @ The Doll Palace
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Registered: 10-13-2004
Thu, 01-19-2006 - 12:20am

OK, following on from my quick question about your age, there are a few other things that I would ask you in order to clarify your situation.

First up, it very much appears that he's not that into you. Bearing this in mind and also the way he treats you, why EXACTLY do you love him?

How long have you been together?

You mentioned that you're going to move away at some time. Why are you persuing a relationship with someone when you're going to move away?

you said "because not a lot of people know we're together because of some people who like to start s**t with me about it!"

What does this mean? Do your friends dislike him? If so, why?

Dress Up Games, Doll Makers and Cartoon Dolls @ The Doll Palace
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 01-19-2006 - 1:50am

I know this isn't what you want to hear, but there isn't anything you're going to do about your boyfriend and there isn't any way to make him see how much you care. His telling you he's going to be over then not showing up pretty much tells you exactly what how much he cares and where you stand in his priorities. If he respected you, cared about your time and feelings, if you mattered to him, he'd never stand you up. He'd make sure he was there when he said he would be and if something really did come up and he couldn't make it he would call you to tell you he wasn't going to make it. He's showing total disregard for you. It's time for you to have enough self respect and self worth to refuse to be treated that way. Tell him not to bother to stop by or call anymore because you won't be treated like that, and cut your ties to the guy. You deserve someone who cares about you and respects you and this guy does not. This isn't about him not seeing how much you care for him, it's about his feelings for you. This is degrading and humiliating you, don't let it continue.








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