What do I do?

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What do I do?
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Sat, 04-09-2011 - 9:38pm

I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now.

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Sat, 04-09-2011 - 10:51pm

Welcome to the board, Harleynight ~

I'm hoping to get a little more information to clarify the situation.


~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
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Sun, 04-10-2011 - 12:50am
harleynight wrote:

I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now.

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Sun, 04-10-2011 - 6:41am
No I haven't told him that I'd like to see him, but I figured telling him I miss was the same. But maybe not. My little ones aren't gone very often because they don't see their dad on a regular basis. So i pretty much have them all the time. And I don't go to his place because he lives with his elderly parents. He takes care of many things for them because of their age and that is another reason we don't see each other often. He also has a job that he hates, in the process of finding another, but nothing yet. He is trying to change his job so he can have a better schedule for us to see each other, but still looking. He did take extra time off in May for our weekend and we talk every day, and I when we are together he is an amazing man, I just want to see more of him and not every two months.
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Sun, 04-10-2011 - 4:46pm

It's important for you to realize is that all you can reasonably expect is what you see now.


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cl-2nd_
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Sun, 04-10-2011 - 8:57pm
I guess I should choose my words carefully to express myself and make sure that he knows exactly how I feel. We used to see each other every weekend before.
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Mon, 04-11-2011 - 12:28am

One huge part of this, though Harley, is shouldn't he want to see you just as much as you want to see him?


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cl-2nd_
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Mon, 04-11-2011 - 8:55am

"I miss you" isn't the same as "please come see me", sure, but he would have to be pretty dense not to understand from that statement that you would like to see him again at some point in your life. "I miss you" doesn't mean "stay the hell away from me you nasty turd"

If he wanted to see you, then he would. Six weeks is a LONG time to not see someone. It's worth a shot to ask him to come see you and why it's been so long, but I guess at this point I wouldn't be too hopeful.