What is going on/wrong here?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-30-2010
What is going on/wrong here?
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Sat, 10-30-2010 - 5:39pm

Hi Everybody,

I found Ivillage while searching the internet in hopes of trying to figure out why my partner and I seem to argue about "nothing" frequently.

I'm hoping that if I post a series of exchanged emails between the two of us, someone (perhaps a few people) could take the time to carefully read what each party wrote and provide a fair, unbiased view on what is going on.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-10-2010
Sat, 10-30-2010 - 6:22pm

If this is a regular thing, then

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-07-2009
Sat, 10-30-2010 - 6:31pm

It seems that you two have a past?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Sat, 10-30-2010 - 6:47pm

Hi gpearson8.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Sat, 10-30-2010 - 7:04pm
I just read alwaysstrong and coconut's comments and they both have points which I missed.

I assumed she is your girlfriend....but I now realise that you made no such assertion. Who is this woman to you?

And both posters commented on her strong personality. Yes, I agree that her inital reaction to you was over the top. Though as the disagreement progressed, I think you matched each other pace for pace.

And one last thing....in regards to citing experts and reasearch....I hope you both realise that for almost every topic, we can all find experts who agree with our own POV. Arguements around climate change, circumcision and immunisation spring immediately to mind.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-10-2010
Sat, 10-30-2010 - 7:11pm

Whoopsie, guess I should have mentioned that I didn't thoroughly read beyond the beginning. I guess that could have changed my whole post.. Btw, for future reference, very long posts are very hard to get through. I think that you would be likely to get better responses if you kept it to one screen's worth or thereabouts. Good luck.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Sat, 10-30-2010 - 7:24pm
One last question from me (and I promise I'll then rest). Again, questioning my own assumptions:

I said that her reaction was over the top. Is this how she normally is? Or was her reaction unusual and likely had it's origins in sadness and shock? Because if was sadness or shock talking, I believe you need to drop the topic and cut her some slack.

Arguing with someone who's just dealt with death at work probably isn't the most compassionate of moves.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-30-2010
Sat, 10-30-2010 - 8:51pm

Thanks for all of the prompt, thoughtful responses everyone.

Community Leader
Registered: 05-14-2001
Sat, 10-30-2010 - 9:10pm

Welcome to the board, Gpearson8 ~

I'm assuming A is your girlfriend.

I agree with Carly's thoughts about her thinking herself to be an authority and offended that you'd have an opinion that differs.


~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
Community Leader
Registered: 05-14-2001
Sat, 10-30-2010 - 9:18pm

Reading posts, going off to eat dinner, then coming back to reply wasn't my best choice....

Reading Blue's latest reply made me realize I'd forgotten to add that yes, being upset about the death of her patient (especially considering it was a violent death) could well have amped up her feelings, reaction and response quite a bit.


~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2002
Sun, 10-31-2010 - 9:52am

If this is something that happens on a regular basis.

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