Wife not into sex :-(
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| Wed, 07-05-2006 - 1:58pm |
My wife and I are mid 30's and have been married about 4 years. We love each other, we have a great time together and communicate very openly. The problem is that she isnt into sex. If I dont initiate sex then I dont think we would have it more than once every few months. If I do initiate it, maybe once out of every few times we actually will have sex. She enjoys it when we do have sex but its not a priority for her. I want to have sex all the time. I masterbate at least once a day and that doesnt quell my desire to have more sex. We have talked about it many many many times and she feels like I pressure her into it and that I should let her 'come around'. She never does and I am again frustrated. I really dont know what to do. I feel like I have tried everything and I trully mean everything. She can tell me anything or suggest anything and I would do it if it meant we could be better sexually connected. Everything else in our relationship is incredible but I am going out of my mind by not having a sex life. I even thought maybe she just isnt attracted to me anymore but she swears it isnt me. She doesnt masterbate or even think of sex on a regular basis as far as I can tell. We're both in great shape and dont drink very often so there is nothing wrong physically.
Any advice will be appreciated.

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I think something that's telling is that as soon as questions were asked, he quit responding.
Sometimes, silence roars.
I don't agree that he's gotten advice from both sides because he hasn't come back to answer the questions. There are many ways this could go, but he won't hear advice that applies to his situation unless he tells us what's up. Of course, it's possible that the questions asked made him realize that he's only going to hear what he already knows or what his wife has been telling him. I still think there's lots he could have benefited in another point of view, it's too bad he won't hear it.
~ cl-2nd_life"Experience is what you get
when you don't get what you want."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
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