4. Lessons cont. - More on Communication

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4. Lessons cont. - More on Communication
Mon, 11-07-2005 - 3:13am

Results of Poor Communication:


  • I force my significant other to behave in the exact way I'm complaining about.

  • It can prove that she/he is right

  • Perpetuate conflict and miserable life

  • Maintaining distance

  • Results of Good Communication:


  • Improves relationship

  • Creates intimacy

  • Improves your sex life

  • Improves relationships with others (job, school, etc.)

  • Positive impact on self-esteem

  • Gain insight into self

  • Why some people choose not to express thoughts/feelings:


  • Learned skill in family of origin/culture: avoiding feelings, passive-agressive, mind-reading

  • Fear of disapproval, rejection, retaliation

  • Emotional perfectionism

  • Lack of trust

  • What are enemies of good communication?


  • Mind reading/supposing

  • Not listening

  • HOW TO COMMUNICATE IN ORDER TO CREATE:









    "Ignoring the facts
    does not change the facts"