Should You Give Your Ex Another Chance?

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Should You Give Your Ex Another Chance?
Mon, 01-26-2009 - 1:17am
Should You Give Your Ex Another Chance?

It's often tempting to go back with an old flame. But are you setting yourself up to get burned? Dr. Phil McGraw says you shouldn't play with this kind of fire.

  • If you get out, stay out! You tried a relationship once, and it didn't work. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior, so you're likely to face the same old problems.

  • If you're going to be stubborn and try it anyway, do the work so you can say, "I know exactly why this failed before and I'm confident that it's been fixed." If you can't say that honestly, then you're not ready.

  • Are you the person who made the mistakes before? It's your responsibility to fix them. Otherwise, you're simply saying to your partner, "I want you, but not enough to earn my way back into your life." Prove that you're worth another try.

  • Don't just think that time has passed and that time heals all wounds. Time heals nothing! Deal with the reasons behind the breakup, or you'll wind up breaking up again.

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  • Edited 1/27/2009 11:58 pm ET by cl-2nd_life

    "Ignoring the facts
    does not change the facts"
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    Thu, 03-10-2011 - 11:22am

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