Verbal Fencing With Someone You Love
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|Sat, 07-03-2004 - 6:36pm|
Compromise and acceptance help, but sometimes things just have to be dealt with directly. Sadly, however, blowups, tantrums and hissy-fits don't really solve problems, they just create barriers and wounds. So, how does a couple "argue" about things and solve disagreements? No one simple answer, but the following tips might help.
Don't just slip into an argument on the spur of the moment. If there is a problem which needs discussing, think about it first. Identify the real problem, not just the symptom. For example - partner A leaves the bathroom a mess after using it. What is the problem here? Basic differences in what "clean" means, or a total disregard for partner B? While you're contemplating the problem, also examine what, if