Here we go again....

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Registered: 06-17-2011
Here we go again....
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Sat, 01-26-2013 - 9:58am

Hi.  I have been dating a guy for a few months.  He is a nice guy and we have alot in common,  We talk every day and see each other often.  I do however have one issue with him.  He talks about his Ex alot.  They lived together for 13 yrs and  I seem to know a bit too much about her including her Bday (thanks to him).  At first, I didn't care but as time has progressed I realize that his talking about her is bothering me ans I am begininng to question his honesty.  Yesterday he told me that she was a model.  (Great!!!!  I said to myself.  Now, I have to deal with a super model. lol!!! ) About a month ago,  he told me he met a girl on match that showed up at his office in a bikini. He said she only did that 1 time. Then last week he said that she followed him home from his office and showed up at his house in a bikini a few times.  I Said to him...but you only said 1 time, he told me that I misunderstood.  Then last Sunday,  we spoke and he told me that some girl he met before me called to wish him a Happy New Year and asked if they could get together for a drink and he said no, he is dating someone.  Now, this is my ?.......how much of all this is true?  Is he lying or embellishing the truth?  Is he trying to fill his own ego?  Is he trying to make me jealous or think that he is so fabulous and wanted?  Is it a self esteem issue?  I am divorced and my marriage ended bc my ex was a cheater.  I don't want to go down that road again. Am I being too sensitive?  Should I end it with him?   

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Sat, 01-26-2013 - 11:34am

If he's telling you these things to try to impress you, he's a liar.  If it's really happening, he knows some crazy people.  I don't know about you, but all that drama sounds exhausting to me.

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Registered: 09-17-2005
Sat, 01-26-2013 - 5:25pm

I agree with Geo, whatever his reason for doing this, it can't be good. You've only been dating a few months, I think I'd cut my losses before getting emotionally attached.