Ugh, Facebook drives me crazy....
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|Tue, 01-22-2013 - 11:15am|
My and the BF both have facebook and we will never be on one another's facebook. He doesn't seem to want me on his. I am opposed to publicly stating our relationship on facebook, the whole linking profiles together is a bit ridiculous to me, unless it would be my husband. What I have an issue with is his ex was on his facebook, they did the whole linking their profiles together to announce their relationship to everyone. When he broke up with her, he took down the "in a relationship status" and listed himself as single. My issue is his ex was still trying to get back with him and still is trying to keep the lines of communication open with him via text, email, and on facebook. They had been broken up, but she is the type that still likes to leave the door open with her exes, so she can rekindle things when she chooses. Compiled with all of that, she was still trying to portray them as still being together, even though they'd been broken up. He was being nice back then. She friended all of his motorcyle club friends and all of his relatives. They're all still tied together through Facebook.
When he officially broke things off, they'd been broken up for 4 months. Their relationship wasn't long distance, but they saw one another one weekend out of a month. They spoke on the phone twice a week and mostly texted one another as their way of staying in touch. Facebook was their other link, she'd pubicly post things to him to keep in touch, they lived an hour away from one another and yet, their "supposed relationship" was mostly online and via the phone. What irks me is when he officially met up with her, they spoke for 5 hours and he explained to her why their relationship failed and that it had been over. He then brought up that he had met someone (me) and although their relationship been over and they were fooling themselves by dragging things out. He explained he was happy and wanted to cut all ties. Instead of her accepting that their relationship had been dead and moving on, she opted to continue to call, text, email, and keep in touch via Facebook. I feel like the odd one out.
He always would get beside himself whenever anyone would try to flirt with me and we've opted to keep the lines of communication completely open regarding exes. He was so up in arms over a guy from my past calling to ask me out to dinner and I explained that I told the guy that I was seeing someone. I brought up the fact that I had been sitting back while his ex was still trying to get back with him and that he was still keeping the door open to her for whatever reason. He said that he had no intention on ever getting back with her and he was just trying to be the nice guy. I explained that was sending conflicting messages to her, because she was used to him rolling along with her program of keeping the door open. So he said he would again cut all ties, including facebook.
Again, I'm not on his facebook and he's not on mine.I know how many men I get trying to flirt with me, so I know it's the same with him. I ended up looking at his facebook after we had that disagreement and he still had her as his friend and they had been interacting, even though it was innocent, it was the principal that he'd said he would cut all ties and he hadn't. So when I brought it up to him and I said "you can keep ties with your ex on facebook, if that's still the case". He said "no, I cut all ties with her." I was trying to be calm, so I waited as I didn't want to get heated. I printscreened him copies of him interacting with her on her status and her interacting with him on his status. He then tried to flip things around about how many men wanted me and how it was just her wanting him. We got into our first full blown argument and it was over her. That was my point to him about keeping things open to an ex and how they could impact what you could potentially have.
In the end he said he'd delete her and cut all ties. I still don't feel he did and he changed his settings, so I can't see if she's still interacting with him to know if he's being truthful about her or not. For some reason he always feels the need to play captain-save-a-hoe (long story), but he always says she's not like that, she is on the Godly tip now and he's just trying to be the good guy. I don't buy that crap, because I know how some people are with an ex and especially that she felt it was a competition when she found out about me, instead of accepting that what they had was dead and buried. I feel like breaking up with him over the fact that I don't know if I can trust his word when it comes to her. I mean he said he cut all ties before and then I saw with my own two eyes that he was still in touch with her. Normally it wouldn't bother me, but because he wanted me to cut all ties with any man that wanted to get closer to me and he said he would cut all ties, before the last time that I brought it up. This is the main issue between us, this trust issue all over his ex and Facebook.