1 of my neighbors witnessed the incident

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-11-2004
1 of my neighbors witnessed the incident
17
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 12:01pm

One of my neighbors came into my office a little while ago and told me she witnessed the incident on Saturday and when he came back on Sunday. She was in my lobby when he was yelling telling the police how I hit him and so on and so forth. She said on Saturday she saw him jumping out of his truck yelling at me.

I hope if its necessary she would be willing to give a statement about this. But people are afraid to get involved ya know. What a mess.

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-29-2004
Wed, 03-01-2006 - 9:55am

I am truly sorry, and to be perfectly honest baffled, if you felt that I was attacking luv. I work in the family court system and have been a step-mom for 5 years, I tend to view these situations from the childs point of view and this situation is truly sad. How is it supportive or helpful to just say "oh poor you"??

I read the posts, I saw very bad behavior on the part of BOTH parents, I saw advice being given and luv's response being "Yeah but" and "He has to stop", "He should not be getting away with this" etc.

So in order to support posters we are not allowed to say "hey the way you are acting could be really messing up your kid"?

If you think I was harsh go in front of a judge with these complaints and see the tongue lashing you would get, I see it on a regular basis. Judges are very perceptive and they have heard it all, this is minor and pretty normal in a custody battle.

You have quoted Dr Phil in your siggy line at the bottom there Wild, are you saying that his advice to luv would have been much different? If she continued on and on with him about her ex's bad behavior what do you think his advice would be? He is always saying that someone has to step up and be the hero for the children and to put the petty differences aside for the sake of the kids. Luv's ex is not posting here, if he were my advice to him would be the same, CHANGE YOUR BEHAVIOR AND THE SITUATION WILL CHANGE..........

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-11-2004
Wed, 03-01-2006 - 10:30am

I thank you so very much. And I agree totally. Ofcourse in retrospect at times we wished we would have done some things differently. I have bit my tounge many times when it comes to him and I vent here. This is only the second visit since the order and im doing the best i can in a horrible situation. I will surely think twice, three times about handling him come the next visit which should be for this saturday. Im gonna do a lot of praying for strength to deal with him.

Again I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 03-01-2006 - 10:35am

I won't go so far as to say that you were attacking her... you just asked a really tough question (what


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 03-01-2006 - 10:39am

While I respect your position on this and can see based on your personal life experiences why you can have such a rational perspective on an emotional issue...presentation is everything. Not so much as "what" you said but "how" you said it.

Peace,

Di

***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-11-2004
Wed, 03-01-2006 - 10:40am
Thank you so much for your support it is greatly appreciated.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 03-01-2006 - 10:46am

Don't doubt yourself.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-20-2005
Fri, 03-03-2006 - 6:59am
I don't think it was the question of, "hey are you considering the kids when you two are acting that way?" I have to say it was the first paragraph that got to me.

Pages