1 year anniversary

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Registered: 04-19-2006
1 year anniversary
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Mon, 12-25-2006 - 1:02pm
well, today is Christmas. It is also my stbx's and my one year marriage anniversary. i thought it would be harder than it is. but i am sitting at my mom's house, hanging out with my sisters and mom. now all that needs to be done is actually file for divorce. i have not been living with him for 6 months and it is time to get the ball rolling.



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Registered: 12-21-2006
Mon, 12-25-2006 - 4:52pm
Thats cool!! Be happy and dont let this experience mess your life up! Learn what you can from it and move on. Just be glad it isnt your 28 yr anniversary like I just had and now have been broken and hurt .........but I plan to be strong and not let my hurt, anger and resentment for anyone mess my life up any more!
Happy Holidays!
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 12-27-2006 - 6:18pm

Hi~


I'm glad that you had other things to do beside sit and dwell on how life has turned for you.


My holiday has been different this year, too.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 12-28-2006
Thu, 12-28-2006 - 4:28am

Wow! A year. I know it wasnt smooth, so congradulations for sticking to your guns. I moved out on Nov 1st after 22 years of marriage. Very controlling man, which he is still trying to do, Not!

I am seeing an attorney the first week in Jan. Short version-I found out he was leaving me-bank account-took stuff from "our" storage-talked to everyone about it CPA, doctors, business people - we are self employed - oops, not we any more. So I held on to the info for a week before I told him I knew. During that week I gather 411 off his pc and was able to save some of my disability checks that he didnt get so i could get out. It was the hardest thing I had ever done before in my life.

It's still hard and only going to get harder when I file legal separation next week, but everytime he emails me (which I save) he shows his cards. One second he's nice and loving and then turns on me. I was being fair, but it only got me more problems. All of our utilities were under my name because he was working and I could go. Now it has been H !! getting PG&E to figure out that I am ME living some place else with a new account. Well, I thought it was OK. I had paid my first bill here and paid extra so I wouldnt worry about it for a couple of months. Well, it went to his account towards his house. I tell him he owes me 189.00 and he is refusing to give me the money back. He's not giving anything any way! So it will just get better. He's also trying to stick me with the entire bankruptcy that we just did, that I would not have done if I knew three weeks prior. If I only knew sooner.

Congradulations again and happy divorce.

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Registered: 01-22-2006
Thu, 12-28-2006 - 7:10am

CONGRATULATIONS!!! I filed 8 months after we separated. The first year was the hardest but
going through the actual divorce takes a lot of energy. I wish for you WONDERFUL things.
My divorce was the most painful and yet, the best thing that ever happened to me.

Congrats again!

Susan




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Registered: 01-22-2006
Thu, 12-28-2006 - 7:12am
HUGS Karen! It sounds like you are finding the positive aspects of your situation...it sounds like you are in the right frame of mind, but I will be sending positive thoughts and virtual hugs your way.

Susan




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Registered: 01-22-2006
Thu, 12-28-2006 - 7:13am
You are doing all the right stuff. I wish you much happiness after the divorce. Congrats on making the right moves.

Susan




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