1 year since divorce final...

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Registered: 03-16-2006
1 year since divorce final...
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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 3:06pm
It doesn't seem like it has been that long, probably because I haven't moved on. I'm still trying to get though each day wondering what went wrong and was there anything else I could have done to change things. Yet, I don't really want him back. I think more or less I want forgiveness. Why? I filed for divorce because of some incidents of domestic violence. He said he didn't need to change and I couldn't stay in the marriage unless he did, but I end up feeling bad about the divorce. I think I feel ashamed.
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Registered: 04-19-2006
Tue, 05-22-2007 - 3:24pm
Please, please don't blame yourself. You don't need forgiveness. You did what you needed to do to proctect yourself. I hope you seek some counselling to help you deal with these (very common) feelings. You deserve happiness and peace.
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Tue, 05-22-2007 - 7:46pm
Hugs to you! My divorce is nearly two years out now and I have not moved on very far either. It is truely amazing to me how one look from that man can still melt my heart. I love him, I want him back. Somedays progress is evident, days like today it's not. I don't know what I ever did in this life to deserve such punishment. I don't know how much more disappointment my heart can take without just breaking in two. My best advice to you is take care of you. It does get easier. Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda